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Walcott, Chenneville, and Tarquini. “Relationship Between Recall Of Sex Education And College Students’ Sexual Attitudes And Behavior”

Abstinence-only education may delay young adults from having sex, but it is no more effective than comprehensive sex education. In addition, it omits important health and safety information that they will require later in life.

Most adults surveyed believe that sex education programs should promote abstinence as the best behavioral goal for adolescents; however, more heated debate surrounds whether this should be the only message or one element of a more comprehensive presentation of safer sex choices

Based on systematic reviews, including a large federally funded study of four abstinence programs, abstinence-only programs prove no more effective in getting students to abstain from sex compared with comprehensive or general health promotion programs

Abstinence-only education appears to help delay the onset of sexual activity for younger adolescents who have not yet initiated sex; however, it may not provide the knowledge and skills necessary to protect youth once they become sexually active.

Ray, Darrel. “Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality”

Christianity and other similar religions can cause many people to have negative relationships with sex because of their asexual ideals. Good sex education leads to happier adults.

Religion is about restricting sexual choices in the interest of the religion.

Religion forces people into denying, avoiding, judging and hating themselves and others for their sexual desires and behavior.

People who learn sex without guilt make better decisions, talk and negotiate more openly with their partners and respect the sexual preferences and desires of others. They enjoy their own bodies and are less jealous, possessive and judgmental.

Ryan, Christopher. “Sex at Dawn”

Modern sex is completely different from the way humans used to have sex. Our fear of sex and monogamous tendencies were forced on us by religion and the agricultural revolution.

While hunter-gatherer sex had been modeled on an idea of sharing and complementarity, early agriculturalist sex was voyeuristic, repressive, homophobic, and focused on reproduction.

Willpower fortified with plenty of guilt, fear, shame, and mutilation of body and soul may provide some control over these urges and impulses. Sometimes. Occasionally. Once in a blue moon. But even when controlled, they refuse to be ignored.

Modern man’s seemingly instinctive impulse to control women’s sexuality is not an intrinsic feature of human nature. It is a response to specific historical socioeconomic conditions—conditions very different from those in which our species evolved. … It is, as we’ll see, an adaptation to the social world that arose with agriculture.

Research paper: “The Health Benefits of Sexual Expression”

Sex has many health benefits. We need to change our perception of sex in order to research the benefits of sex more.

Research paper: “Religion, Youth and Sexuality”

Many religious young people are conflicted by the choice between obeying their religion and acting on sexual urges.


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Starbucks Paying The Way For Mobile Payments

Starbucks, Mobile Wallet, Mobile Payments, Startups, Boosterville

No one will ever own a computer in their home.

No one will ever put a phone in their car.

No one will ever need Microsoft Word on their phone.

No one will ever pay for things using their phone.

All of those statements have been proven wrong by technology. The last one–proven wrong both by technology and by America’s favorite coffee shop, Starbucks.

Through their mobile app and their easy to use pay-at-counter system, Starbucks is now reporting that 1 in 10 purchases is paid for by mobile app, the company’s Chief Digital Officer Adam Brotman reported during their earnings call on Friday. In addition to the growth of paying by mobile, loyalty cards were up 30% year over year, which is also tied into their mobile app.

This is great news for startups like Dwolla, Boosterville, Paytango and the countless others that are relying on people moving from physical wallet to digital wallet.

Starbucks is leading the way in terms of mobile payments at huge retail chains, but Paypal is actually breaking into the mainstream as well. Paypal account holders can now integrate their Paypal Mobile app with a phone pin (set up in app) and pay for their purchases at the checkout at places like Home Depot, Champs, Babies R Us, Dollar General and several other retail establishments.

Some entrepreneurs, like Boosterville CEO and co-founder Pam Cooper, are integrating mobile services a la Starbucks. With the Boosterville app, mobile wallet and loyalty & rewards are being integrated for fundraising.

While mobile payments are on the rise, startups like PayTango are taking it to another level with biometric wallets. Services like PayTango, which is currently beta testing in Pittsburgh and California, allow users to pay for things using their finger print. At CES earlier this year we met with a startup that is hoping to use retina scanning technology for payments as well.

Sometimes all it takes is one big name (Starbucks) to adopt a technology. Before too long, even grandma will think it’s normal to pay from her phone.

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Thursday, April 06, 2006

Landscaping What a Pain!

Well James and I started to map out our landscaping for this summer. We have a lot planned just for the front yard. How it looks, we are going to buy more small bushes than flowers. But I told him that we need to get the kind that comes back every year. He just couldn't understand why I wanted flowers that come back every year. I would like not to have to plant flowers in the front every year. Since he has made the front yard a big mulch zone, it will be hard to keep planting over and over. Now the side yard I'm not to worried about, because that is a smaller area. In the corner yard I'm just planning on tilling it all up and throwing wild flower seeds back there. I would do more to that area, but the back neighbor has two young puppy's and I don't want my hard work to get eaten. Or I might just have to build a small fence around it so they don't eat my flowers.

My main thing this year is to have a vegetable garden in the back yard. I would like to plant some cucumbers, bell peppers, green beans and maybe a few tomatoes. I even have my goofy garden hat all ready. So about May I will start on my vegetable garden. Slowly through the spring and summer I will have the front yard done, hopefully. But who knows, James might derail my plans when he starts on his outside projects. I guess I will have to wait and see, what he has planned.

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Wednesday, 4 August 2010

Rippin, stitchin, swapping and changing my mind

I mentioned in my last post that I was planning on making a corduroy quilt as a tribute to the Gee's Bend corduroy quilts.  Well, I've started it!  It is very liberated.  I did no measuring and very little cutting, simply ripped the cords into strips of various widths and lengths.  Next I stitched them together into four log cabin-ish blocks, taking strips randomly.  One strip I accidentally sewed the wrong side up but when I looked, I thought "hey, I quite like the look of that!" so I left it.  I am loving the way it looks and feels so far, but I have run out of my thrifted corduroy now!  I may try and get some soft denim to add a border to the quilt, bringing it up to lap quilt size.  But typically, since I've been looking out for some lovely soft denim in the charity shops, I haven't seen any!  So once more, it's "watch this space" to see how it progresses.

corduroy tribute to gees bend

I have sent off two postcards for a swap on Lib-Quilters.   Unfortunately, I forgot to take photos of them before I sent them on their way...but here's one I didn't send plus one I've made since:

red and black star postcard

The ric-rac octopus was originally made for the swap but Waif wouldn't let me part with it!

The red and black star is going to a friend who donated some scraps for my hexagon project.

Which brings me nicely to:

new direction with the hexies

I have decided to take a different approach with my hexie quilt. I wasn't quite happy with the flowers. They look nice individually but I couldn't work out how to put them together without a path and not look too random and cluttered. But I didn't want a path cos it would mean making zillions of identical hexies and I didn't fancy that much. So, I am thinking along the lines of a large hexagon star, like a quilt photographed in this Jinny Beyer book.   I am sorting my hexies into light, medium and dark and will define the pattern by value.  I don't think it's going to be a true charm quilt, but I will try to make sure there aren't more than 3 or 4 hexies of the same fabric and that they are not close to each other.  Hopefully I will be able to use the hexie flowers round the edges of the star somewhere - if not they will applique themselves onto something or other, no doubt...

  1. Love the Octopus...I don't blame Waif for insisting.

  2. I do love Waif's postcard.

    I'm thinking of starting some hexes. It's probably the only way I'm going to get rid of tons of crumbs!

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Thursday, June 25, 2009

My Stash! Oh My!

I spent all of yesterday cleaning my sewing room and reorganizing my stash. I brought out the summer fabrics and put in the winter stuff. ( By out I mean on the shelves in the room and by in I mean on the shelves in the closet of the sewing room)

The above pictures show only part of my extensive stash. the rest is in various under-the-bed containers and on shelving in other parts of the house.

Now I know there are frequent discussions about stash in the sewing blog world. Some sewers feel that one can never have too big a stash while others don't condone the stash that is, well, shall I say uncontrolled.

Mine is absolutely out of control to the point of nausea. I mean I sometimes can't sleep wondering and worrying over what I'll ever do with all that fabric. And what if I die suddenly? Will my stash find a good home?

Now you probably think that I've made a resolution to not buy any more fabric, right?
Wrong! But I have a new rule. It's this: I can't buy a fabric unless I know exactly what it will become and when it will become!

So there. The problem is solved as far as limiting the growth of my stash.Now what to do about decreasing the stash as it stands now?

That brings me to another problem. Too many clothes! Sewing from my stash shouldn't be too hard but I'm running out of hangers!Now I hear some of you thinking

"Why don't you give away some of your clothes to Goodwill?"

I've already done that many times and already have the next bag half full. I still can't wear all the clothes that are left in my closets.

And someone else is saying

"Sew for your family"

I do sew for my daughter but I don't always get feedback and I often wonder if I'm just wasting my time or does she really wear the things I make for her.My grand-daughter is 12 and she suggested that I could make her pretty tops and capris so you can bet they are in the works.

But, let's face it. I could go on and on and who am I trying to kid. I'll always be happiest sewing for myself because my creations are my babies and I love almost all of them. No one appreciates them as well as me.

Ok.I feel better now. I think I'll go start on Jessie's top which I'm making with the leftovers from my DD's last dress.

Is there anyone else out there who is feeling overwhelmed or greedy or maybe a little nauseous over too much something? I'd love to hear from you if there is.

Gail said...

I used to think that my stash was excessive. I've seen a few posts recently that make me look very minimalist. Mine is down to 10 pieces - but not as neatly stored!

Adrienne said...

Your stash is VERY neat!!!!

Vicki said...

Yes sometimes! And I have so many clothes too! I will be giving a fair bit away with my move to a new house..but not all of it. BTW, you need to do what my DD used to do when she was about 3 or 4 - change several times a day. She would just come back into the kitchen with completely different clothes on. She still loves her clothes and when we go out shopping or whereever, she is always the best dresses!

Vicki said...

Oops I meant "best dressed". And she is now 15.

Kim said...

Oh Diana, tu n'as pas à t'inquiéter, Tamara porte les vêtements que tu lui fais. Au bureau, elle est toujours fière de nous montrer ce que tu fais pour elle. Je pense, entre autres, à la robe de son anniversaire; elle est magnifique =) Passe un bon week-end! J'espère qu'il fait beau dans ton coin =)

gwensews said...

Too much fabric and too many clothes? Nah! It's our happiness, which one cannot have too much of!

BetsyV said...

Actually, this week I have been feeling very overwhelmed by my stash. It's just become disorganized during the last several projects.

After I finish my current project, I am going to spend a day with every single piece in the same room and resort it.

And I vow to put pieces back where they came from when I have decided it's NOT the next project!

Linda T said...

Yes ma'am. I could have written this post myself. I go through times where I just want to get rid of everything and start with a clean slate--and then one day I find "just the perfect fabric" for a new idea that popped into my head. I would sew more for my DGD, but she is 600 miles away and fitting the way I would like is just not feasible. I do make knit tops every now and then as they are more "fit" forgiving. I sew more than I need. But it is my hobby and makes me happy. Now that I am retired, I don't need the amount of clothes I once did. I was doing well with (not) buying fabric until this past Wednesday when I brought home much too much (BUT IT WAS SUCH A GOOD DEAL AND I HAD SO MUCH FUN). I think sometimes it is my "entertainment." Perhaps I need some counseling??

Ivalyn "Tee" Jones-Actie said...

Can I sent you a plane ticket to come to Baltimore and organize my stash LOL

knitmachinequeen said...

I recently de-stashed by giving a lot of fabric that had been her for ever to a co-worker. That lasted about 3 weeks! Now I have even more than I had when I de-stashed. In my was all on sale or at a ridiculously low price ;-}

Julia said...

I would think you DD and grand daughter probably appreciate what you make for them more than they let on. Shame on them for not letting you know how much. They probably take for granted that since you are so talented that everything you make is going to be awesome so it goes without saying it. They probably don't realize how much you need to hear it as well.
On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with having beautiful clothes for yourself. Just enjoy making them and wear them with pride.
I have a big stash, but it is mostly vintage things like tablecloths, tea towels, etc... waiting to tell me what to do with them.
I always buy too much fabric so I have lots of short pieces that I'm not sure what to make from them. I know that they will come in handy when I need to trim something. I just recently started saving all of my little bitty scraps. Hum, I don't quilt, but surely they will come in handy for something. Maybe I should give them to a quilter.

The Sewing Loft said...

Reading your post made me feel so much better. lol Honestly, I could open my own fabric store using my stash. I too, have been awake at night wondering what would happen to all of my lovelies if something should happen to me. I admire your newly organized stash, keep buying! :) There are worse things we could be doing in life, than buying fabric.

Carolyn (cmarie12) said...

I am in need of reorganizing my "collection" and it is on my schedule to do. I'm sure I'm going to find some things in there that I've totally forgotten about so I'm kind of looking forward to that unknown element!

And I totally understand about the too many clothes situation, however, I can usually take care of that with one good giveaway. Actually I need to be more like my mother and just take over another closet in the apt...but that means then that one of my daughters would have to move out...

Mmmm, I wonder which one I should ask to leave! ROTFLOL!

Chris said...

My apparel fabric stash is pretty small (but growing), my quilting stash was another story. I said was, because every once in a while I get brave and go through it all and pull out what I know I won't use and give it away or use some of it for muslin samples.
I think we all just love fabric and that is why we sew or quilt. The fabrics themselves can be a work of art.

KARIMA said...

If I ever move again, I will have an apartment sale and get rid of as much fabric, books and magazine as I can. I'm not packing my stash and moving it ever again. But for now I don't worry about how much I have or of buying more. I just wish I would sew more. I really need some more clothing.

Morzel: said...

If I worked at a fabric place, I would probably buy MUCH MORE fabric than I do these days. I did a lot of buying in the beginning, and don't so much now - as I have come to think of the quality (no cheap stuff anymore). Buying something (for me) expensive lets me think twice before getting it. I did a fabric cleanout recently and gave away 20kg of fabric to a fellow sewist- and felt much better afterwards. Because I got rid of the fabric I wouldn't have sewn anyway.
About having too much to wear and sewing nevertheless: sewing is not just about having something to wear - it is the sewing itself that we need! So go ahead as sew sew sew, buy beautiful fabric for this and feel good about it.

ClaireOKC said...

Hey look - we all got our stashes...I like to think it's better than a lot of other things...drugs, alcohol (well at least not while we're sewing) and some other things. If your stash is the worst thing about you, you should be up for sainthood!!!

Don't worry, there will come a time with the filling in the stash will abate and you will enjoy going through it and pulling out things to do up decades later.

I finally started sewing for people - that's how I keep my closet it check...have you thought about teaching?'s a great way to sew and not have it all end up cluttering your closet. Another thing I like about sewing for people is that I get to sew on colors and fabrics I would never use for myself, but are fun and worth sewing on.

Melanie said...

I have been doing custom sewing for a few people. One of them comes in and starts looking at my fabric and says, "oooh, can I have a _______ out of this?" some of these pieces I really wanted for myself. But we all know we will always find more. Maybe not the same, but we will find more things to love. It can be hard and a couple of things I've said no to. She always likes the ones I LOVE, never the ones that later I look at and wonder what I was thinking. This is a nice arrangement, I get to sew up great pieces of fabric and someone else pays me and also loves it as much as I do. And it's not some ugly thing someone brought to me asking that I sew up something that won't work in that fabric. It's a good thing!


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Treasured: Christopher Maclaine's "The End" is one of the films revived for home viewing by SF-based NFPF in the set "Treasures IV: American Avant-Garde Film, 1947-1986."

Box set "Treasures" unearths buried avant-garde

Michael Fox April 2, 2009

The latest wonderfully eclectic and stunningly vital DVD release from the San Francisco-based nonprofit National Film Preservation Foundation, Treasures IV: American Avant-Garde Film, 1947-1986, is not, strictly speaking, intended to be a greatest-hits collection or even a comprehensive introduction to experimental film for the novice. (Although one could imagine the more irreverent artists represented in the two-disc set cheerfully agreeing to inclusion in a black-and-yellow-sheathed "Dummies Guide to Experimental Film.") This splendid package of 26 films, drawn from the avant-garde capitals of New York and San Francisco, is primarily designed to support and tout the NFPF’s mission of helping preserve endangered works of our collective film history. Of course, curator Jeff Lambert didn’t pick films at random, but (with the assistance of experts in the field such as former S.F. Cinematheque executive director Steve Anker) compiled a cross-section of approaches, styles and tones. In reality, what’s immortalized in Treasures IV—what repeatedly smacks the viewer in the face—is the artists’ exuberance for life paired with the excitement of exposing celluloid to light.

To the average citizen raised on Hollywood narratives, experimental films often seem precious, pretentious, oblique and/or obscure. The most amazing thing about this box set is how immediate, spontaneous and accessible the films are compared to the lion’s share of contemporary movie culture. Jazz, nature, modern art, poetry—whatever was in the air, or on the scene, is picked up on by the artists. And just as often, the filmmakers aren’t integrating their influences and friends but expressing their own instincts. Chick Strand’s avant-documentary Fake Fruit Factory (1986) drops us in the middle of a group of Mexican women whose job is making the painted papier-maché fruits and vegetables that once filled the bowls on American coffee tables. Impressionistic and offhandedly feminist, the 22-minute film doesn’t highlight some sociopolitical injustice or even develop an emotional connection between us and the workers. We’re insinuated, rather, into a circle of women chatting about men, sex and bosses, and inculcated in the rhythms of daily life. It’s a vivid, seductive and altogether fascinating film that I expect to revisit once a year.

Another local filmmaker, George Kuchar, contributes the funniest piece in the box (as one would expect). Kuchar makes a film with his class at the S.F. Art Institute every semester, and I, An Actress (1977) shows the teacher rehearsing and directing the actress he’s cast in the lead. This nine-minute foray into black-and-white pseudo-melodrama doesn’t merely satirize Hollywood histrionics but reveals Kuchar to be a terrifically gifted actress, er, actor. A uniquely West Coast strain of droll subversiveness is on display in Robert Nelson and William T. Wiley’s 1967 pseudo-scientific hoot, The Off-Handed Jape…& How to Pull It Off. The filmmakers face the camera to demonstrate the eloquence of nonverbal communication, acting out such instructions as alerting a friend across the room at a party that his fly is open. A charming relic of the pot-and-acid era, The Off-Handed Jape also presages the smart, self-reflexive humor of SCTV and its imitators.

New York is represented by a panoply of icons, notably Jack Smith clowning on a rooftop in Ken Jacobs’ Little Stabs of Happiness (1959-63) and playing an object of desire in Ron Rice’s epic gender-swapping fantasia Chumlum (1964). Of special note is Andy Warhol’s Mario Banana (No. 1), a fabulous four-minute study of drag performer Mario Montez pleasuring the titular fruit. A delicious piece of comic erotica and a tour-de-force of silent acting, it will stop the room cold when you put it on at your next party.

Because, by design, this collection is limited to films that have been preserved by the likes of the Pacific Film Archive in Berkeley and Anthology Film Archives in New York, there’s no point in quibbling over omissions from Treasures IV: American Avant-Garde Film, 1947-1986. For example, I wish that Bruce Conner, who died last year, were represented here, although I recall he had a very strong preference for having his work projected on celluloid. So take pleasure in what is here, namely four hours of invigorating and even inspiring work, accompanied by a solidly informative booklet (complete with a foreword by preservation evangelist Martin Scorsese).

The San Francisco Cinematheque will screen a selection of films from Treasures IV, including many of the titles mentioned above, Wednesday, April 15, 2009, at Yerba Buena Center for the Arts. The box set, which was released this past month, will be on sale at the show.

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A Talk with SFIAAFF Directors Chi-hui Yang and Taro Goto

Susan Gerhard March 14, 2006

Cinephiles love Asia – horror from Japan, art pics from Vietnam, candy-colored creations from Thailand, and whatever Korea has to offer. But this year’s favorite among the Asian nations may come from a newer point on the filmmaking compass: Asian America. As Exhibition and Festival Director Chi-hui Yang and Festival Assistant Director Taro Goto tell me, the numbers of quality Asian American indie films that came into their sights this year was exponentially higher than years past. They took an hour or two to break it down for me a week before the 24th San Francisco International Asian American Film Festival, opening this Thursday, March 16, and running through March 26, makes their point for them.

SF360: Your organization recently went through an identity change, from NAATA, National Asian American Telecommunications Association, to Center for Asian American Media. What was that about?

Chi-hui Yang: It was an identity change that was a long time in the making. I think that we had been living in the identity of the Center for Asian American Media for the past decade, but really under the guise of NAATA. It’s something that we’ve been wanting to do for a long time, I mean we were still getting solicitations from cell phone companies in China about what our products were, because in 1980, the word ‘telecommunications’ meant broadcast media, radio, television, and that’s what we were for a long time and in the past two-and-a-half decades that has changed very rapidly as technology has changed. It was the 25th anniversary of the organization and we felt: It’s now or never, we really need to make this change. It’s the name catching up to the work that we’ve been doing.

SF360: The Center for Asian American Media is so different from many other festival organizations, because it’s a year-round funding organization. It’s proactive in the creation of all this media.

Yang: Well part of what is exciting about that is we are able to create a pipeline of projects for the film festival and beyond. We end up helping filmmakers all the way through the process: making their films, funding their films, screening at a film festival, educational distribution, television broadcast, possibly home video. So we help with all those stages and it really allows us to maintain the relationships with filmmakers and have an active role in kind of creating cinema, too.

SF360: You not only have a big increase in the number of Asian American films in your festival this year, but also a big change in the types of Asian American films in your festival, less strictly “affirmative” than a decade ago, and more complex. What were the cornerstone films in this shift?

Taro Goto: I would say that the first film that really caught people’s attention by doing exactly that was ‘Better Luck Tomorrow.’ For a long time, I think people assumed we wanted to supplant negative stereotypes with positive stereotypes. Well I don’t think that you can expect to have a film that has perfect Asian Americans in it. I think films are good to the extent that they show people dealing with problems and having flaws and that makes them human and that is why we can identify with them.

SF360: The Model Minority is yet another stereotype that had to be defeated.

Yang: Also, mixed raced and bi-racial filmmakers are bringing a different kind of perspective, a more nuanced perspective about identity. So films like ‘Charlotte Sometimes’ and ‘Robot Stories,’ both pushed the cinema forward, too, because both of those films are, at the core, commenting on being Asian American, but they are doing it much more nuanced way. And both are experimental in form as well. Both of them did very well theatrically and are doing well on DVD – and it’s because they had a more sophisticated look at these subjects.

SF360: What are some of the biggest Asian stars to appear in Asian American movies?

Yang: I think that’s really something that is growing, and I see it for a way for Asian American indies to get more commercial play. Because the cinema really is an independent cinema; there is very little commercial cinema coming out of Asian America. So you have people like Sylvia Chang, who is a star in Hong Kong and Taiwan, she is in a film called ‘American Fusion’ that we’re showing this year.

Goto: Yun-jin Kim is an example of a Korean actress who is successful in coming to the US, she is in the ABC show ‘Lost’ right now, and she is attached to a film called ‘Georgia Heat,’ co-starring with Billy Bob Thornton.

Yang: But I would still like to see more people harness Chow Yun-Fat and Jet Li. I think that the kind of roles that these guys get in Hollywood are still really constrained. You could see one of those people being directed by an Asian American director and put in a very different kind of cast.

SF360: Like the way that Quentin Tarantino would repurpose a John Travolta?

Yang: Exactly. It would change how you look at this person.

Goto: And we know that there are many Asian actors who are hoping to come to the US and break through. You know Tony Leung Chiu Wai, after years of not choosing to take on any U.S productions, has a writer working on a Western screenplay for him.

SF360: There are, obviously, very many different Asian countries, many not at peace with each other. Do you find in programming some of the international cinema, that you get into political trouble spots with your audiences?

Yang: We like to see what is happening in those national cinemas, but we also like to see the way they comment on Asians living in America too. Our closing night film, ‘Journey from the Fall,’ is a US-Thailand-Vietnamese production about the experiences of Vietnamese refugees after the fall of Saigon. That era of Vietnamese history is so contested both there and within the communities here. I’m sure it has caused some controversy in the United States; it certainly has in Vietnam already. “Kekexili: Mountain Patrol,” which is set in Tibet, is more soft look of the kind of politics of that region. There is also the question of North and South Korea, which a number of our films explore this year.

Goto: I think that the San Francisco audiences are very immune to that type of politics and controversy. If we show a controversial film, they eat it up. So we never feel like politics hamper our program.

SF360: Why is everything Korean so popular at the moment?

Goto: People have differing opinions about why Korean cinema has exploded so much in the last 10 to 20 years. Some will say that the screen quota system was a big reason why and others would say that the main reason was the Korean conglomerates putting in a lot of money. There were great filmmakers and actors to really carry these great films that started impressing a lot of programmers and audiences. But I think that there is a tremendous diversity in Korean cinema that is exciting. There is not just one type of film; there are different genres of films, art-house films. It’s not so one-dimensional.

SF360: What about the popularity of Korea as fashion, as in the movie in your festival ‘Linda Linda Linda.’

Yang: Well I think all across Asia, there is a lot of idol worship. Trends and fads seem to travel very quickly from Korea to Japan, to Taiwan and Hong Kong. I think each of those different regions are attracted to these fads for different reasons. Like the reason why Koreans would be huge in Taiwan are different from why they are huge in Japan. Because Taiwan is a place where people are sort of still shopping for identity, whereas in Japan, it’s really just about what’s hip, what’s most exciting, what people want to be a part of. I think it has to do with what’s happening within Asia, but I also think it has to do with how Asia looks out to the US and how that bounces back. When there is a certain kind of validation when Korean cinema is blowing up in Europe or in the United States; it gets people going.

Goto: There are two more things that are interesting about Korea. One is, whereas Koreans used to be very discriminated against in Japan, there is a huge Korean fad there right now. Korean soap operas, Korean movies, and their stars are household names in Japan. They are huge. They are really blowing up and it’s been known on a few occasions, a Korean, say, melodrama will get picked up by a Japanese distributor for the entire cost of the production, because they know that it will make that much money in Japan, all by itself, and anything that they do domestically or internationally outside of Japan is just gravy. So there is a lot of money in the Japanese industry.

Yang: But why do you think Japanese like Koreans so much? Is it that whole complicated history?

Goto: I am not really sure, but it really started with this one TV Soap Opera called ‘Winter Sonata’ starring Bae Yong Joon. For whatever reason, that show launched everything in Japan and Bae Yong Joon, the star, was talked about as showing a very sensitive side that Japanese males were not showing at all. I remember being in Japan and watching this on TV shows were there would be these interviews on the street where middle-aged women would be asked, ‘Do you prefer a Japanese man or a Korean man?’ ‘Korean Men,’ she’d say, ‘because they are so sensitive’ – as if he were the representative for everything.

Yang: I think it has something to do with The World Cup, too. I think that is a turning point also, I think that there were certain things that were in place too but when the World Cup went to Japan and Korea, there was such pride, and the Korean team did really well. I think most people in the world had already seen a lot from Japan and that they hadn’t seen much from Korean, in terms of pop culture and society and that really elevated them a lot. I think it increased the kind of pride, creativity, excitement in Korea, but also brought those things everywhere else. It’s very curious.

Goto: One thing I found very interesting about the explosion of Korean cinema is that it really grew together with the Pusan International Film Festival. The festival really played a huge part in attracting attention to Korean cinema and creating a festival that’s of value to the whole international film community. It put it on the map.

Yang: And that is our hope that it is all going to replant back with Asian American film. It’s starting to ripple back here, too.

SF360: What is the next big thing, a national cinema that you think is poised to explode, or a trend in filmmaking here?

Goto: We’re hopeful that it’s Asian American films, partly evidence by the fact that we have a dozen Asian American narrative features in our competition this year, as opposed to six – which is the most we’ve had up until now. So there are many more filmmakers producing work and they are very, very diverse – just as Korean cinema succeeded because there were so many different types of films and so much talent there. I hope that Asian American films will find similar success.

SF360: You mean on an export scale, too?

Goto: Hopefully, I mean, if Asian American filmmakers can tap into money that is floating around Asia for these co-productions, then a lot of these can be the bridge between the US and the Pacific, and really be in the position to make films that reach a wide audience.

Yang: I agree. In terms of national cinemas, I think the most curious place right now is Mainland China. There is so much cultural, political, and economic change and that’s producing incredible films, both documentary and narrative; we have a number of great ones this year. But I think that is where we are going to see a lot of movement in the next couple of years. You know, Thailand and Korea have done really well in the past couple of years, and that is going to continue, but where I think there is a fairly strong commercial film industry and a really interesting indie film underground film movement is China. And with the increasing connections with Hong Kong and Taiwan, and the flow of money between those, there are a lot of films that are going to be made there that are not necessarily going to be shown in China. But I think a lot of filmmakers are making films for European audiences and the world outside of China to get a sense of what’s happening.

Goto: The other day I was asked about Censorship in Asia, you know, it exist in China for sure, but I think one thing that is exciting, is when you have censorship or restriction in expression, I think it ends up creating a situation where the filmmakers have to be very very innovative and creative about how they are going to say certain things. I think that in a lot of films that get made in China, even if they pass through censorship, they have an element of social criticism embedded. It might be oblique, but it’s certainly there, just as Hollywood filmmakers had to figure out a way of expressing romance when they couldn’t show kissing on the screen during the Hays code. I think that when you have these restrictions placed on expression, it does create a lot of interesting ideas.

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Wednesday, August 5, 2015

LALO KIKIRIKI A Miracle: Portrait of She and He

We are always
by tiny miracles
in the dust of days
               -Alice Q. Palmer Wood

For thirty years she has managed
the monthly miracle
of "paying the bills"
dipping just enough from that money river
         to last
                 past the flipping of a calendar page.
He calls it "keeping the wolf from the door"
and she wonders,
has he ever felt the fangs –
         the drip of its hot saliva
                  slide into the pulse of his clavicle?
She feels the wolf's breath hot
         on the nape of her neck
                  as she signs each check
with the hyphenate name he gave her
making the miracle happen
         one more time

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Shakespeare Quick Quotes

All is not well;
I doubt some foul play; would the night were come!
- Hamlet (1.2.254), Hamlet, alone on the platform.
doubt ] i.e., suspect.

Please see the commentary on Foul deeds will rise (256) for more information on these lines.

How to cite this article:
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What and what

What and its derivatives had a wide range of interrogative and exclamatory uses, many of which are still found today; the chief difference in Shakespearian English is their reference to people as well as things, where today we would use who. Whatever shows very little other difference, apart from the way its elements can be split as what ... ever. Whatsoever is generally equivalent to whatever, and is still found in emphatic use in modern English (though not in the -e’er form).   Syntactic usage occasionally varies, as in ‘As if that whatsoever god who leads him’ (Cor II.i.211) and ‘what and if / His sorrows have so overwhelmed his wits?’ (Tit IV.iv.9), where modern English drops the and - ‘what if’. The examples below distinguish uses of the compound forms as adjective and conjunction.

what AYL II.iv.85 What is he that shall buy his flock and pasture? who
what KL V.iii.98 What in the world he is / That names me traitor whoever
what 2H4 I.ii.114 What tell you me of it? why, what for
what Mac III.iv.125 [Macbeth] What is the night? [Lady Macbeth] Almost at odds with morning how much time has passed?
what though (conj.) 2H6 I.i.156 What though the common people favour him what happens if, what does it matter if
what though (as elliptical sentence) AYL III.iii.46 here we have no temple but the wood ... But what though? so what?, what if it is so?

whatever, whate’er AYL II.vii.110 But whate’er you are ... in this desert inaccessible whoever
what ... ever Oth III.iii.466
to obey shall be in me remorse, / What bloody business ever whatever
whatsoever, whatsoe’er (adj.) 2H6 IV.x.29 rude companion, whatsoe’er thou be whatever
whatsoever, whatsoe’er (conj.) MM IV.ii.117 Whatsoever you may hear to the contrary whatever
whatsoever, whatsoe’er (conj.) R3 III.iv.65 doom th’offenders: whatsoever they be whoever
whatsomever, whatsome’er (adj.) Ham I.ii.249 And whatsomever else shall hap tonight whatever
whatsomever, whatsome’er (conj.) AC II.vi.97 All men’s faces are true, whatsome’er their hands are whatever
whatsomever, whatsome’er (conj.) AW III.v.50 Whatsome’er he is whoever


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Monday, September 28, 2009

Gratuitous Living Room Pictures (because I want to)

I worked on our living room a little more this weekend, moving a couple of bookshelves in there. It's not a large room and there is very little blank wall space, so we are pretty limited on arrangements. We traded a couple of rocking chairs for a second Kroehler Ko-Dav loveseat from the 19-teens or early 1920s and now I'm happy with the way it looks. It's a cozy, comfortable room. No television. When we moved to this house I said NO TELEVISION IN THE LIVING ROOM. If I hadn't decided this right from the first I could never have made it stick. Now it's the place for reading, sewing, and talking, and sometimes for lying on your tummy and putting together a jigsaw puzzle in the middle of the floor. I love this room.

We don't have all the original window and door trim, and replacing it has been an expensive experience, so we're doing it a little at a time, hence the trimless windows. That maple floor is original and had never been stripped until we did it. Shawn Leppert was extremely happy about that beautiful, untouched floor!

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Trading Dress Form for Lamb

I sold this on eBay

so I could buy this.

Seriously. I sold my My Double to earn money to buy a whole lamb, raised by our friends the Scholtes, to be delivered in late October to somewhere around Thanksgiving time. I have never bought a whole lamb before, just beef, and I'm really going out on a limb and I'm going to buy the whole dressed carcass and do the cutting myself.

Monday, September 21, 2009

What's for Supper: Chicken Fried Rice (comfort food)

Cheap and cozy, that's chicken fried rice for ya.

  1. Either steam 1 cup of long-grain rice in 2 cups of lightly salted water, or, better yet, use leftover rice.
  2. Heat some oil in a wok. Chop up 3-4 green onions including the tops and stir-fry them slightly. Add the cooked rice and stir-fry it with the onions. Stir the rice around so the grains separate as much as possible.
  3. Push the rice up the sides of the wok, leaving an empty space in the bottom. Add another tablespoon or so of oil to the empty space. While it heats, beat 4 eggs together in a separate bowl. Add them to the hot bowl and swirl the wok over the heat so that the eggs cook to the bottom in an even layer.
  4. When all the egg is solid but still moist, take a sharp knife and cut it (still in the wok) quickly into narrow strips, as narrow as you can reasonably manage, like 1/4 to 1/2 inches. Then cut those strips crosswise to make small chunks of cooked egg. Mix the chunks in with the rice.
  5. Once again, push the rice mixture up the sides of the wok and heat a little more oil. Meanwhile, chop some leftover cooked chicken meat, 1 to 2 cups worth. Add the pieces to the hot oil and stir-fry them to heat, then mix them with the rice.
  6. You can stop and serve at this point, or you can also add some fresh ginger peeled and cut into matchstick-sized pieces, fresh chopped garlic, water chestnuts, bamboo shoots, or even a little bit of horseradish, any or all to taste.
Serve immediately. Feeds 4-6.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Five under my roof last night.

Britta surprised us by asking her dad if she could come home last night, just for the night. He was heading back in to LaCrosse for the laser regatta anyway this morning, so it was a perfect time for this. We were all surprised as we had all agreed she shouldn't come home for at least 6 weeks, but it wasn't a homesick type visit, or a hanging-tightly-to-high-school visit; it was an exhausted, my-knee-hurts-and-I-can't-sleep-in-that-dorm visit. She tore her knees up in PT one morning, doing a "low crawl" while holding her M16 (!!) and the wounds hadn't closed because she wears jeans all day and they kept rubbing. Owwww!

Anyway, she was with us last night for supper (and to do some laundry) and we had such a great time. She actually SAT AND TALKED TO US like a real grown-up. She was helpful, she was polite, she was patient with her siblings and not whiny at all. Kind of amazing for 3 weeks!

She looks incredibly great. She has muscles all over the place. She told us she ran 3 miles while holding a 5-gallon jug of water the other day. I couldn't walk even one mile carrying a 5-gallon jug of water! That's about 40 pounds, plus the jug! Wow.

It's so good to have here and so good to know she is happy about going back to school. So much less stress. Praise the Lord.

Friday, September 18, 2009

The Strange Case of the Disappearing Blogger

I have not been loving my blog as I should. But I have posted over at The Sisterhood of the Traveling Scarf blog and invite you to go have a look over there. The Sisterhood was started by a friend and former Palmdale neighbor of mine, Mrs. Mac. Their first project was to pass a scarf around amongst their members. Everybody was asked to take the scarf on an outing to show what life is like in their part of the world. (I think. I didn't join that project and wasn't paying very close attention.) This year's project is the Traveling Apron. Each of us gets the Apron for a week. During that time, we are to share how we cook in our home and in our part of the planet, along with a few recipes. Nothing fancy, just what we do all the time.

It's been a fun challenge because while I started the week thinking of myself as a pretty boring cook, as I paid closer attention to what we do around here, I realized we are interesting in our own way. We love cheap, that's for sure, and so during the summer we are eating out of our garden as much as we can. And I rely upon tried and true recipes without a lot of brave innovation. Most of what I cook is the same stuff I cooked last year, or 5 years ago, with adjustments made for finances and having moved 45 minutes away from the nearest grocery store.

My week with the Apron is nearly concluded, and I'm waiting to hear to which Sister I am to send it next. We're allowed to include a little note or card with the Apron package and I am hoping to stretch that to include a little bit of real saffron for the next Sister in line.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Lovely, lovely old linens!

I got a present in the mail this week from my sister-in-law Roseann: Some wonderful vintage linens. Look at this table set! I'm guessing it's a bridge set, though I will still use it on our dining table. It is linen with insets of crochet work. And look at those S's! Roseann wrote, "When we got married, an old woman gave them to us and said they had belonged to her parents. I kept them for sentimental reasons all these years but they never saw the light of day and I think you would appreciate them more." And I love them! Now if we can just keep from slopping catsup or raspberry jelly on them. I know they're meant to be used, but I don't want to wreck them, either.

Not in the pictures are a set of cross-stitched pillowcases and matching dresser scarf which are also pretty, quite a bit more recent in vintage, and currently airing on the clothesline.

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Great news. Britta had two main obstacles to getting an Army ROTC nursing scholarship. The first was the fitness test, which she passed Monday morning. And the second, much larger, was to obtain a medical waiver. She had been formally denied the scholarship based on very minor health stuff that she had had in her early teens but not recently and certainly nothing out of the ordinary for every other human being on the planet. We had hoped to have the medical waiver taken care of in the spring but it had dragged on and on.

Today she got a letter stating that the waiver has been granted! Now, as far as we know, nothing more stands in the way of her accepting her nursing scholarship and becoming an Army nurse. :o)

Thursday, September 03, 2009

Fly the Flag on 9-11

I don't do e-mail forwards, but I would like to pass on the information from one I just received that is a good reminder to fly the flag on September 11, if not every day, in solidarity and remembrance of those who lost their lives 8 years ago, and those who have lived with that loss every day since, and those who put their own lives on the line to protect us from having to endure it again.

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

I want a Mini!

Want to have fun visiting a website? Check out, the website for the Mini Cooper. It zooms just like the car does. There's even a way to throw the whole website into reverse. (Hold the shift key while clicking the little gearshift at the bottom left corner.)

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

Doll quilt for niece

Remember I made that yellow gingham apron for one of our nieces? The other one didn't want an apron, she wanted a quilt for her doll, which is a little one, around 12 inches tall. And she wanted it to be purple and orange, her favorite colors. So here is a purple and orange doll quilt. It's pretty small, made just to be the size for wrapping up a 12-inch baby doll.

I'm posting these once I know they have arrived. Roseann called me a split second after her table runner arrived. I know this doll quilt arrived because of the delivery confirmation number.


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People involved in open relationships explain how it works for them

Dating in this day and age seems to be needlessly complicated. Dating apps and social media seem to give us the impression of unlimited choice. People are too scared to settle down and are always on the lookout for an upgrade.

Some people are even turning to open relationships.

An open marriage or relationship is where both partners agree they can sleep with other people outside of their relationship. Some suggest that it’s the perfect answer to seek something new without technically cheating or causing issues.

Just like monogamous relationships, there are certain rules put in place to make sure nobody gets hurt.

People have been taking to Reddit to share their experiences of a polyamorous relationship and have been giving advice on how to do it properly.

“We set up a lot of ground rules initially, things like: you can’t hang out with that person all the time and sleep with them more than three times etc. Things that would mean that you were now in a relationship with someone else (we wanted open play, not poly relationships).

“Now we just can’t be bothered seeing other people and the sex was never as good as with each other. We might bring in a person to jointly play with once or twice a year, but we’re kind of just ‘over’ seeing other people. Honestly, mostly the same as before we were open.”

– SpookyKins

“For every stable, open relationship with solid rules that are adhered to very well there are 10 more train-wrecks in action.

“I’ve noticed some interesting patterns. Many times, the man initiates it, but the wife / girlfriend ends up getting way more than he does, and it alters the dynamic of the relationship considerably.

“The ones that seem more solid and lasting in the open state are the fully open ones. That is: multiple full on relationships, not just f****** around. (I suspect that this is because both people are truly committed to the lifestyle, and not just satisfying urges).

“I’ve also noticed a lot more stability in relationships that aren’t fully open where the openness has the rule where it’s only open on mutual attendance. AKA swinging and t*********.

“The reason the fail rate is so high, is not because it’s inherently ill intentioned. It’s just way f****** harder than a normal relationship. You have to be super on point and self aware at all times with your communication.”

– TeaBurntMyTongue

“I was in polyamorous relationships for about 10 years, and for five of those years I was married.

“When I met my ex-husband we were both interested in exploring non-monogamy and didn’t see the need for strict monogamy in long term relationships. It was fun, terrible, super sexy, really difficult, and at some moments felt like the best thing ever. Things I learned:

:: Plan/schedule/ everything, your life gets super busy.

:: Tons of time will also be spent talking about EVERYTHING.

:: Negotiate and renegotiate rules, people’s boundaries change.

:: Be endlessly committed to self reflection and personal growth.

:: Be ready for exercising your patience for drama, even those trying to avoid it have drama because if you and your partner are dating multiple people you end up with a huge connected network and drama surely happens somewhere in that network at certain points.

“I feel like I gained some valuable skills and insight during my time practicing non-monogamy (like communication skills, managing my emotions, learning more about what’s most important to me, learning how to be good at being alone, being super awesome at negotiating sexual boundaries, etc.)

“While in my heart I still feel like I’m more naturally inclined toward non-monogamy than monogamy, I’ve actually found that monogamy suits me better in this current world/reality.”

– Hail_Nebula

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Stone-throwing wall-thumpers: Review of Australian Poltergeists

APPaul Cropper sent me a copy of his new book with co-author Tony Healy, Australian Poltergeist: The Stone-throwing Spook of Humpty Doo and Many Other Cases. He must have known how much I love this topic and was eager to learn about various cases around the world.

I learned about the concept of poltergeists before many of today’s weekend ghost hunters were out of diapers. It seems like today’s paranormal investigators do not know much about the long and detailed history about this particular type of haunting. I didn’t know as much as I wanted to but Australian Poltergeist gave me great info but also an increased interest in seeking out more.

What is a poltergeist? We don’t know. We can only define it in terms of the claims of those who say they have experienced a noisy, disruptive, seemingly paranormal event in their homes. The episodes of alleged poltergeists feature individuals but often families plagued by invisible forces that move furniture and household items, produce wall-shaking thumps, and deliver showers of stones both inside the house and out. Some polt cases also include mysterious disappearance and reappearance of objects, malfunctioning of electrical appliances, scrawled messages, spontaneous fires, noises, and appearance of strange substances. It’s variable whether the entities are aggravated or unaffected by religious items, the events seem more personal than related to a general location, and the polts will put on a show but deliberately avoid cameras. It figures.

There is a mischievous attitude to polt events which may last weeks or months, and may move with the person and then suddenly stop. Such accounts are worldwide, reported for hundreds of years. The first poltergeist event that was well documented was in Great Island, New Hampshire in 1682 when George Walton and those at his tavern and inn were hit with stones that broke windows and caused disruption. Reading the accounts in Australian Poltergeist along with the mention that I noticed in Baker’s A Storm of Witchcraft caused me to pick up Baker’s earlier book on the Devil of Great Island. Funny how these stories weaved themselves together. In addition to that, I had also recently read the report from the North American Wood Ape Conservancy relating the stone-throwing and wall banging behavior of what they think may be a “Bigfoot”. Case 41: Parabeena Creek inAustralian Poltergeist is remarkably similar to Area X in the NAWAC report. This event took place in 1941 and included stone showers, thumping, and other noises in a remote cabin with apparently no one else around. Hmm.

There is much to think about regarding the relation between events thought of by paranormalists to be poltergeists, demons, djinn, house spirits, or Sasquatch. They overlap a great deal. I’m interested in finding out more about the cultural aspects and the potential natural (and social) explanations to these reports – disputes between neighbors, hoaxing, adolescent troubles, family turmoil and stress. This, to me, is really complicated stuff and to brush such claims off as “nonsense” is a mistake. There is something here, while almost certainly nothing supernatural, it sure is interesting.

Healy and Cropper do great research; it’s clear they have scoured the original sources and meticulously retrieved the newspaper accounts. The book is also very readable. The one problem I had was with the characterization of skeptics as overly dismissive. But, I do have to concede this is often the case. I’m not one of those dismissive “Skeptics”. I apply skepticism because it makes sense, especially for extraordinary claims, and I am not ready to accept a paranormal explanation, but will admit something strange is certainly going on that deserves attention as the authors attest.

It’s true that skeptics will not always consider the cases. Why? Likely because it seems implausible, the data is difficult to collect due to the unreliable nature of the phenomena, it takes a tremendous amount of time and effort to do such investigations and so many cases have definitively been shown to have rational explanations with few or no unexplainable anomalies.

I’m going to focus on the stone throwing, what was called lithobolia for the Walton case (U.S.), because it’s a claim that shows up in relation to very different proposed entities. In almost all cases the stone thrower is sought but never found. Reports include stones being thrown from open areas, stones may fall slowly, deliberately hitting people softly or missing them altogether. They may be reported to fall from or through a ceiling, or fall dry during a rain storm or hotter than the surrounding temperature. They may fall “dead” without a bounce or stick to the roof without sliding off. Labeled stones may be rethrown by an unseen assailant. In this book, the authors report for the first time that infrared cameras reveal the stones were uniformly warm, without handprints.

Many paranormal historians have been fascinated with talking polts like Coalbaggie (AUS), the Bell Witch (US), and Gef the mongoose (UK). While there is no doubt that stories spread from their source and may have been influential to potential hoaxers, and it is impossible for us to look back at some of them and do anything more, their folklore value remains.

The authors don’t go too much into the causes of polt activity because, they admit, they just don’t know –  many others have speculated and come up wanting. They make brief reference to work by D. Scott Rogo who believed polts were caused by RSPK. They also note the interesting correlation to Islamic tales of djinn as tricksters who start smokeless fires and throw stones. Here’s something I’d not correlated before –  poltergeist-type features to fish falls (unnaturally slowly and sometimes alive) which are not uncommon to Australia. And, they note the connection to Yowie reports (Australia’s hairy hominid). I review their book on the Yowie here. The current book follows a similar pattern and serves as a great collection of reports. Funny how mystery hairy hominids act like polts… I’m thinking about that and will be writing more about it, I hope.

Pick up this book for your collection on the paranormal. It’s available in Kindle, too. Watch for poltergeists to become a big thing as new movies come out about the Enfeld case as well as a remake of the classic horror Poltergeist. Should be fun.

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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

The impending doom of the letter "Z".

That's what is on my 5 year old's mind these days.

She is a bright little girl; she's been reading since she was 4 and she thoroughly loves her pre-kindergarten class. However, she has been expressing that she is nervous about starting kindergarten in the school with the big kids. Completely understandable. Hell, I'm nervous myself!

This year, they have a "letter of the week" and they learn the sounds the letter makes, words that start with that letter and then words that rhyme with those corresponding words.

Lately she has been not wanting to go to school and especially dreading a new week. Last night we finally figured out why. She announced over dessert that the letter they are working on this week is the letter "Y". Next week is the letter "Z". And then... she's doomed. Yes, she literally said "doomed".

Evidently, on the playground her classmates and her have collectively decided that upon ending letter "Z" week, they will promptly be dropped of at the elementary school doors to find their classroom and fend for themselves amongst the big kids. We tried our absolute hardest not to laugh and I think we managed really big smiles instead of laughter. We did our best to explain to her that that would not be happening and that she had the rest of this Spring and then the whole Summer to get ready for kindergarten and then we would take her to school. She seemed pleased with our answer and was actually excited to go to school today.

This morning I took her to her classroom and the second she walked through the door she announced to everyone, "guess what, kids! We don't have to leave after the letter "Z"! We get to stay longer and then our parents will take us to kindergarten later!". The kids who heard her stopped and clapped their hands and giggled... then they all hugged each other.

Of course the teachers looked confused and I explained the impending doom of the letter "Z". They got a good laugh out of it too and then promised to do a better job of explaining the transition to kindergarten.

Annie Coe said...

That is so sweet. This story made me smile after a rough day, thanks for that.

mtyler77 said...

This really brought a smile to my face also, shattered. I'm glad your daughter brought a smile to you, to her classmates, and to us as well!

Childhood can be a wondrous time, can't it?

a quasi French woman said...

Hey, I'm sorry that I have arrived late to the gathering. But, finally, I have arrived. It took me long enough!

One of your loyal fans has been encouraging me to drop by--in a different incarnation, I'm sure. That is, or rather this is, only one of the 3 Faces of Eve. I'm usually Halfway To France but I was quasi French as I worked on the galaxy's most exhaustive archive of expat blogs out of France--a mere hobby, a distraction...and I drifted over from there.

However, I had to stop and comment on this delightful illustration of the power of lack of information and the misunderstandings it engenders. I'm so delighted that you took the time to write about your little girl's anxiety over the alphabet coming to an end--because of what it appeared to forecast on the horizon.

I will try to keep it in mind as my life in the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave peters out and I fling myself into the kindergarten of central France. It put a smile on my face, too.

Deborah said...

This was a superbly written piece - and a delightful story.

Shattered said...

Deborah, I love this story too. I still share it when talking about my daughter. She is nearly 6 and she is a "seasoned" kindergarten student now. I think she lost the last little bit of "toddler" when she went to kindergarten and although it is fun to see her grow, I miss those younger days. :)


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Christopher STM Admin's Blog – December 2011 Archive (12)

Inching Along At Warp Speed By Jennifer Hoffman

Can you feel the energy building as we approach 2012? It feels like a dam that's ready to burst as the momentum that is leading to our transformation builds. At this point we're ready to leap into the new earth, to release the burdens we have been carrying for so long and are looking forward to a life of greater grace and ease. Just as we think we have arrived, another issue pops up to remind us that even at higher vibrations, we will move forward in the same way we always…

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All Aboard ? Last Call to Love ! by Lauren C Gorgo.

“The earth that you once knew is no longer…there is a new vibrational pattern that has permeated the blueprint of the planet and you now exist as members of the galactic community, cousins to the enlightened citizens of your galaxy.” -Pleiadian High Council

The New Earth

In just a couple more days, thru the solstice on 12/22, we will have completed the last and final recalibration of 2011, and according to the PHC, this completes our journey to new…

Added by Christopher STM Admin on December 21, 2011 at 5:16am — 5 Comments

Soul Reintegration ~ The Process Begins By Chris Thomas

My friend and spiritual mentor, Chris Thomas has just written this four page pdf about the new energies that we are  being exposed to (as of December 13th) and what is to come in the next few months.

Here is the first paragraph of that document to whet your appetites !

"Humanity is primed to undergo the greatest shift in consciousness that has ever been seen in the history of our Universe.

Seven thousand years of human history – “The Human Plan” – is approaching its…

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Matthew's Christmas Message.

Christmas message

1.This is Matthew, with loving greetings from all souls at this station. Each year this season in your world is especially emotional, when the fortunate could look forward to exchanging gifts, decorating homes, attending religious services, perhaps traveling to celebrate with family or awaiting visitors. For them, this…

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2012 ~ What Do You Mean The 3rd Dimension Is Going Away ? By Jim Self

As 2012 approaches there is an increasing urgency to this message because we’re all, literally, running out of time to play in the third dimension.

In simple terms, the habit of thinking and feeling and behaving that we know of as the third dimension is going away. Everyone is shifting into a fourth dimensional consciousness and experience, and then into a fifth dimensional consciousness and experience.

However, most people on the planet are not prepared for…

Added by Christopher STM Admin on December 9, 2011 at 5:02am — 10 Comments

Are You Discouraged By Conflicting Guidance About Ascension ? By Meredith Murphy

Well, if you're feeling this, congratuations.  Your feedback system, your amazingly perfect inner compass is attuned and working well.  This kind of feeling is the emotional equivalent of a siren, or a flashing red light: it's a alert!  It's USEFUL.  It's telling you something like: you're disoriented.  You're out of sync with you.  Like maybe you've let THE authority on all this slip into the background and are listening to other people's guidance…

Added by Christopher STM Admin on December 7, 2011 at 6:58am — 5 Comments

Illness And Soul Integration By Chris Thomas.

I recently wrote to my friend Chris Thomas about all the aches, pains and illnesses I am seeing in people I know and myself. I was concerned that these conditions would hinder soul integration.

He provided me with a 12 page PDF all about this subject where he goes into higher self communication through the chakras.

Here is the start of the document........

"We have travelled a long way along the path to achieving soul re-integration. Many millions of people are…

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The Arrival Of Universal Love By Lauren C Gorgo

“As the new-human prototypes fully activate and physically embody the frequencies of universal LOVE, mother earth receives the nourishing scalar energies needed to ease her labor pains…as do each of you.” -Seven Sisters of Pleiades

Post 11:11

It’s been three weeks since the 11:11 when, yet again, our inner-world turned inside out and our outer-world turned upside down. It always takes a good chunk of time after a major portal to get our wigs on…

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The Three Steps For Defeating Fear With Love By Jafree Ozwald

Do you want to experience a profound state of peace and bliss?  Learn what it takes for you to continuously choose love over fear.  What is love?  The experience of love is what opens you, softens you, makes you smile, laugh and feel a light playful innocence inside.  It is the most patient, healing, expansive and calming sensation you'll find in the Universe!  The experience of fear is exactly the opposite.  It comes from a need to overly control yourself, your mind, a…

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The Year Of Epic Transformation By Emmanuel Dagher.

As the year 2011 comes to a close, and we briefly reflect back at what this year has brought into our personal & collective lives, it becomes clear that 2011 has been the year of epic transformation.

Noticing What Is Already Here

As a result of habit & conditioning, many of us (including those in conscious communities) may have a tendency to always look for the next big 'thing,' 'event,' or 'experience' to happen we feel will bring us closer to the expected…

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IMG_3418I had such an amazing time at the Salt Lake City Comic Con where I met the staff of Word Fire Press. I can’t beIMG_3390gin to thank everyone for all of their help with the launch of my new book, The Feather and the Moon Well. Everyone was incredibly nice and very professional. What a great team! Quincy, Michelle and Daniel, you were especially amazing!

I met my publisher, and NYT best selling author Kevin J. Anderson and many other accomplished writers. It was fairly mind blowing. Brandon Sanderson even dropped by!

IMG_3450I had the total honor of being next to NYT best selling author David Farland, and Christopher Paolini, NYT best selling author of Eragon. At one point Christopher had a book signing of what looked like 200 fans! If you have ever had the pleasure of meeting Christopher, you will discover what an amazing person he is—and a super nice guy! I read Eragon several years ago, and like everyone else, delighted in the books and the movie. I wanted to bring mine for Christopher to sign but it is a huge compilation of the whole story, and weighs about eight pounds. Not something I could haul on the plane.

I have so much to say I don’t even know where to start. Pictured to the left is Becky and her friend. She is the first person to buy my book. Thanks Becky!IMG_3395_2

But I think one of the most wonderful events happened on Saturday, the last day of the Convention. I had two different people approach me to say they had purchased my book on Thursday. They both said they had started reading The Feather and the Moon Well and enjoyed it so much they had to come back to let me know! I think the joy of that experience will carry me through the entire year!

Here are some of the great people that bought my book. I’ve posted a lot more on my facebook page.

IMG_3454I was also honored to spend time in the booth with D. J. Butler. He is the acquisitions manager for WFP but he’s also an author. I’ve started reading his book, City of the Saints, which is a really great. I’m also beginning to see glimpses of a really great mind. You know, those people who seem to think at light speed and leave you in the dust? That’s D.J. Butler. Go check out his book. You can buy it here on Amazon. Dave kept me in stitches by reinventing my name, as well as the synopsis of my book. Here’s a review of ‘Feather’ which isn’t quite on the mark – LOL and cracks me up. Thanks Dave, FanX was a lot of fun and I look forward to repeating it at Emerald City Comic Con.

I also met wonderful, award winning writer Scott William Taylor, who already posted on his blog about me and the David Farland Discovery program. Read that here.

So many fun things are happening, and I will try to keep them all listed either here or on my FB page. David FarlanIMG_3464d, my editor, mentor and just a truly awesome guy wrote this amazing post about The David Farland Discovery Program.

So next week – April 7-10 I will be heading to Seattle, my home town, for the Emerald City Comic Con for another great adventure. I hope to see you there!

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Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Infidelity & Tan Lines

What's going on with marriage today? I must admit I'm utterly confused? Being almost 3 years in, I'm thinking we are invincible.

My girlfriend in California is trying the dating thing out there. She's having a great time being single, black, and getting to know herself more as she ages. Occasionally, she'll entertain me with a crazy story with one of her guys she is "talking" to at the moment. This one in particular, Vincent...  :::shaking my head::

My girlfriend went out for her birthday, turning 27. She meets a guy coming out of the bar. He's stepping out with his friends, getting into his latest Lexus SUV. He sees my girlfriend walking with her friends. He steps out and catches her before she crosses the street. He asked for her name and began with the 'let me give you a call shepeal' ..

While he was talking she peeps into the back seat of the SUV, she saw a car seat AND a booster seat. Two kids, really??. Normally after seeing that she would of passed up automatically, but after a dry spell or two, and experiencing the small pool of men that actually don't want to try forever, she decided to give him a try. They traded numbers, he calls her.

Vincent is a black, handsome college educated, frat brother in his late twenties... she asks him during the phone conversation about the kiddie caboodle in the back. He said, yea he has kids. He and girlfriend had recently broken up and he was staying with his mother. He has a 4 year old an a 2 month old. A 2 month old is pretty freaking fresh!.. She understood, he was cute, so she gave him a try. After a couple weeks and a steamy unexpected make out session in the the elevator, she  fiiinnnaally gave up the cookie.

After all the dates out, many in depth conversations, wine and over nights he started to let his guard down. He sat on the floor with both of his arms perched on top of the bed. My friend glanced at his left hand and stared at the bright tan line with all the glowing red arrows pointing to it. She leaned on the wall..."Are you married???" Calm and smooth as butter he said, "Nope, it's a birth mark." Inside she was furious because not only was that fucking ridiculous, it was saying she was completely stupid to her face. She wanted his trust to further reveal his lies, so she smirked.. "No, really.. how long have you been married?"

He said 8 years. "We have a wonderful relationship." " I love her and she loves me, I just need to step out once in awhile. Everyone does it, you wouldn't believe who all I know who do this type a thing. Over 90% of married men have cheated or WILL cheat at some time, it's just in our nature" She said, "Does your wife know??" He said, "No, are you crazy. I keep this completely under control." She said, "Why didn't you tell me you was married..???"  He then committed to further dig himself into lies, like.... " I really liked you and I didn't want you to find out because I didn't know you was gonna take it??.. you are so smart, and our conversations are just so good, and I can't talk to my wife like I can talk to you.. blah blah blah... fucking blah.

All the information crept up and came out like vomit. He spewed it everywhere like he was begging to get it out. Usually habitual liars are eventually like that with someone. He said, he purposely got a membership at 24 Hour Fitness because why??...It's open 24 hours and he can say he's there when he's with whichever woman. When he meets girls, he makes up a story about his life, and he uses alot of energy hiding the tan line by sitting on the right side of the girl, so his left arm can be over her shoulder. The whole object was to be good at lying. So then he began confessing a story on his in's and outs on meeting another chick he was currently "talking" to. He said he didn't care about her so he always wore his wedding ring around her. It took her roommate to finally point it out. When it was all out in the open between the 3 of them, he said she didn't care one bit.

My friend asked, "Would you be okay if you wife did it to you?" He said, "No... not really. But what I don't know won't hurt me."

Are these people crazy!!!??

Needless to say, but she was hurt. Because she allowed herself to trust him with her emotions, to open up to dating a man with kids, and for him not letting her decide on how to feel about him being married. Thank GOD she's totally against it, but what got to her was this new type of man. We're noticing we're not kids anymore, 27 is getting to the age of life consciousnesses. My girlfriend said, she never even thought to examine the wedding finger and who would go to so far links to lie and betray the love of another human being you promised your life too? She said.."This is the crap you see Sunday on Lifetime.. not in my studio Long Beach apartment.

Later in the week, at work she started looking at the clients that were men fingers at her job. A man in his 60's hit on her, he asked that she email him sometime. Not call but email. He was coming back from a long trip at a time share.. he kept saying we. She didn't see a ring and didn't think he was married until he called back up there after he left to see if his wife left the garage opener there.. she confirmed it was him.

Why are so many married men cheating?

Arnetta Green said...

That is one jacked up story. What a mess! He must have been feeling really comfortable to be letting all that ish come out. You're friend did a good job of keeping her cool. I hate it when men say that nearly every married man cheats. I refuse to believe that and I think that's something that scumbags say to feel better about being a scumbag. Also i think they are trying to warm a woman up to the idea that it's normal and even ok to be cheated on.

Mrs. Mary Mack said...

LAWD! Too much going on here. I can;t say why men cheat- many times it has nothing to do with how they feel about their wives, so I hear, But one thing's for sure- the moment that I find out MINE is cheating I'm going ape shit. I'm tearing some shit/people up then calling the popo's and coming out like Kelis did on Nas in court. It's ignorant and ugly but I've put in too many years to sit idly by and turn a blind eye. LOL

SheBloggs said...

Arnetta- Yeaaaa! Right! Every man doesn't cheat!! I was with a guy for 7 years and never did, plus I think as a woman, you can tell. You can just feel it. I mean If your good at noticing the small stuff you can tell.
AND what surprises me is SO many women accept it...It's not thirlling to me to go after a married man. Lord!

Mrs. Mary- LOL! Your going ape shit! That is funny! Me too! Yea ur right, it is ignorant and ugly but damn..the point will be across.. and I don't know about forgiveness either. That is like the ULTIMATE SUPER FAIL..

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