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The last gleaming sliver of Komarr's true-sun melted out of sight beyond the low hills on the western horizon. Lagging behind it in the vault of the heavens, the reflected fire of the solar mirror sprang out in brilliant contrast to the darkening, purple-tinged blue. When Ekaterin had first viewed the hexagonal soletta-array from downside on Komarr's surface, she'd immediately imagined it as a grand Winterfair ornament, hung in the sky like a snowflake made of stars, benign and consoling. She leaned now on her balcony overlooking Serifosa Dome's central city park, and gravely studied the lopsided spray of light through the glassy arc overhead. It sparkled deceptively in contrast to the too-dark sky. Three of the six disks of the star-flake shone not at all, and the central seventh was occluded and dull.

Ancient Earthmen, she had read, had taken alterations in the clockwork procession of their heavens—comets, novae, shooting stars—for disturbing omens, premonitions of disasters natural or political; the very word, disaster, embedded the astrological source of the concept. The collision two weeks ago of an out-of-control inner-system ore freighter with the insolation mirror that supplemented Komarr's solar energy was surely most literally a disaster, instantly so for the half-dozen Komarran members of the soletta's station-keeping crew who had been killed. But it seemed to be playing out in slow motion thereafter; it had so far barely affected the sealed arcologies that housed the planet's population. Below her, in the park, a crew of workers was arranging supplemental lighting on high girders. Similar stopgap measures in the city's food-producing greenhouses must be nearly complete, to spare them and this equipment to such an ornamental task. No, she reminded herself; no vegetation in the dome was merely ornamental. Each added its bit to the biological reservoir that ultimately supported life here. The gardens in the domes would live, cared for by their human symbiotes.

Outside the arcologies, in the fragile plantations that labored to bio-transform a world, it was another question altogether. She knew the math, discussed nightly at her dinner table for two weeks, of the percentage loss of insolation at the equator. Days gone winter-cloudy—except that they were planetwide, and going on and on, until when? When would repairs be complete? When would they start, for that matter? As sabotage, if it had been sabotage, the destruction was inexplicable; as half-sabotage, doubly inexplicable. Will they try again? If it was a they at all, ghastly malice and not mere ghastly accident.

She sighed, and turned away from the view, and switched on the spotlights she'd put up to supplement her own tiny balcony garden. Some of the Barrayaran plants she'd started were particularly touchy about their illumination. She checked the light with a meter, and shifted two boxes of deerslayer vine closer to the source, and set the timers. She moved about, checking soil temperature and moisture with sensitive and practiced fingers, watering sparingly where needed. Briefly, she considered moving her old bonsai'd skellytumi indoors, to provide it with more controlled conditions, but it was all indoors here on Komarr, really. She hadn't felt wind in her hair for nearly a year. She felt an odd twinge of identification with the transplanted ecology outside, slowly starving for light and heat, suffocating in a toxic atmosphere . . . Stupid. Stop it. We're lucky to be here.

"Ekaterin!" Her husband's inquiring bellow echoed, muffled, inside the residence tower.

She poked her head through the door to the kitchen. "I'm on the balcony."

"Well, come down here!"

She set her gardening tools in the box seat, closed the lid, sealed the transparent doors behind her, and hurried across the room into the hall and down the circular staircase. Tien was standing impatiently beside the double doors from their apartment to the building's corridor, a comm link in his hand.

"Your uncle just called. He's landed at the shuttleport. I'll get him."

"I'll get Nikolai, and go with you."

"Don't bother, I'm just going to meet him at the West Station locks. He said to tell you, he's bringing a guest. Another Auditor, some sort of assistant to him, it sounded like. But he said not to worry, they'll both take pot luck. He seemed to imagine we'd feed them in the kitchen or something. Eh! Two Imperial Auditors. Why ever did you have to invite him, anyway?"

She stared at him in dismay. "How can my Uncle Vorthys come to Komarr and not see us? Besides, you can't say your department isn't affected by what he's investigating. Naturally he wants to see it. I thought you liked him."

He slapped his hand arrhythmically on his thigh. "Back when he was just the old weird Professor, sure. Eccentric Uncle Vorthys, the Vor tech. This Imperial appointment of his took the whole family by surprise. I can't imagine what favors he called in to get it."

Is that your only idea of how men advance? But she did not speak the weary thought aloud. "Of all political appointments, surely Imperial Auditor is the least likely to be gained that way," she murmured.

"Naive Kat." He smiled shortly, and hugged her around the shoulders. "No one gets something for nothing in Vorbarr Sultana. Except, perhaps, your uncle's assistant, whom I gather is closely related to the Vorkosigan. He apparently got his appointment for breathing. Incredibly young for the job, if he's the one I heard about who was sworn in at Winterfair. A lightweight, I presume, although all your Uncle Vorthys said was that he was sensitive about his height and not to mention it. At least some part of this mess promises to be a show."

He tucked his comm link away in his tunic pocket. His hand was shaking slightly. Ekaterin grasped his wrist and turned it over. The tremula increased. She raised her eyes, dark with worry, in silent question to his.

"No, dammit!" He jerked his arm away. "It's not starting. I'm just a little tense. And tired. And hungry, so see if you can't pull together a decent meal by the time we're back. Your uncle may have prole tastes, but I can't imagine they're shared by a Vorbarr Sultana lordling." He thrust his hands into his trouser pockets and looked away from her unhappy frown.

"You're older now than your brother was then."

"Variable onset, remember? We'll go soon. I promise."

"Tien … I wish you'd give up this galactic treatment plan. They have medical facilities here on Komarr that are almost as good as, as Beta Colony or anywhere. I thought, when you won this post here, that you would. Forget the secrecy, just go openly for help. Or go discreetly, if you insist. But don't wait any longer!"

"They're not discreet enough. My career is finally on course, finally paying off. I have no desire to be publicly branded a mutant now."

If I don't care, what does it matter what anyone else thinks? She hesitated. "Is that why you don't want to see Uncle Vorthys? Tien, he's the least likely of my relatives—or yours, for that matter—to care if your disease is genetic or not. He will care about you, and about Nikolai."

"I have it under control," he insisted. "Don't you dare betray me to your uncle, this close to the real payoff. I have it under control. You'll see."

"Just don't . . . take your brother's way out. Promise me!" The lightflyer accident that hadn't been quite an accident: that had ushered in these years of chronic, subclinical nightmare waiting and watching. . . .


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The Average Homebuyer Credit Score Has Dropped to 723

Last month, the average homebuyer’s credit score was at its lowest level in at least four years, according to a report from mortgage software company Ellie Mae, which processed 3.7 million loan applications last year. Borrowers whose mortgages closed in September had an average FICO credit score of 723. That’s the lowest the average credit […]

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5 Ways to Convert Your Bathroom into a Spa-Like Oasis

Imagine coming home from a hard day at work, stepping into the bathroom, and feeling all of your worries fade away as you soak in the tub or stand under a warm stream from a waterfall showerhead. The right décor and design can make taking a bath or getting ready for your day in your […]

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Many real estate experts suggest that you put at least 20% down on a home loan, but not everyone has that kind of cash on hand. The days of easy credit qualification may have come and gone, but there are still options out there for those with the right mortgage qualifications but without a proper savings or […]

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Top 10 Stupid Staging Ideas

Not all home staging is created equally. Staging Darwinism is real and only the smart survive. Below we countdown the top 10 “stoopidest” home staging ideas. #10. “Bake cookies right before your open house.” Our sense of smell is very closely related to our sense of memory. True enough, for some people, the smell of […]

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Broadway Profiles with Tamsen Fadal Becomes First Nationally Syndicated Weekly Broadway TV Show

January 12th, 2021 | By Staff

The John Gore Organization announced the launch of America’s first weekly nationally syndicated Broadway entertainment program, Broadway Profiles with Tamsen Fadal. The new weekly version of the show will reach theater fans across the country on WGN America and on 83 local broadcast stations, reaching 97% of US television households.

Hosted and executive-produced by 12-time Emmy winner Fadal, Broadway Profiles is a New York Emmy Award-winning entertainment show with unprecedented access to A-list celebrities, Broadway’s biggest stars, and behind-the-scenes stories on and off the stage.

“Even though Broadway is the heart of New York City, the entire country is feeling its loss during this time. Until the day we can celebrate live theater together again, my hope is that Broadway Profiles keeps the spirit of Broadway alive for the ever-expanding audience across the country, ”Fadal said in a statement.

“With dark theaters across the country, audiences are craving theater content and with Broadway Profiles, we hope to bring the theater community to their homes. Tamsen’s experience as a broadcast host and producer has been invaluable in bringing Broadway news to televisions across the country,” said John Gore, owner and CEO of the John Gore Organization. “With this exciting weekly syndication, we’re able to bring the best of Broadway to fans nationwide when they need it most.”

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How I wrote ‘The Sentinel’

Part 2: Pre-writing

After I found the Guardian article, ‘How to Write a Novel in 30 Days’, (which I talked about in an earlier blog post), I spent much more than 30 days actually working through the templates!

I estimate it took me nearly a year to work through the structure, character development, timeline of events, plot points and sequencing, let alone the research required to give the reader an authentic experience of lighthouse life.

Not only did I work on the templates I’d downloaded from The Guardian website but I also used a small whiteboard I bought from Officeworks to diagram the novel’s structure.

Wilson’s Promontory Lighthouse – the original inspiration for ‘The Sentinel’

Years ago I’d done a professional writing course and as part of that course, I did a scriptwriting stream where we learnt the craft of the 3 Act story structure. Basically this is a curve where you plot where the end of Act 1, the midpoint, end of Act 2 and the end of Act three occur. Sort of like this:

Once I’d worked out the events that occurred at the end of each major section of the novel, I filled in the gaps in between with different key events, or plot points. Some writers call them ‘beats’ but whatever the name, I found this process helped me work out where I was going and what I was aiming for in every scene and chapter. This might sound like an easy process but I found I constantly had to revise this as the story grew. I got lost in the story itself many, many times.

The inspiration for the setting of ‘The Sentinel’ came from a visit to Wilson’s Prom lighthouse

Other tricks I used to help me design the story was writing out scenes on cue cards to visualise what was happening and to give me an overview of the whole storyline. I put these all over one wall of my room and moved them around into different columns I’d labelled to help me figure out which event should go where.

One of the hardest parts of the novel was the timeline. I drew up a calendar on my whiteboard (it was getting pretty full by this point) and put key events into the calendar to help me see if the timeline would work or not. I had to play around with this for a while to make sure the events made sense, helped drive the plot, and reached a climax at the right point.

One final trick a writer friend told me about was to find images of my characters online and then print these images out and stick them on my wall. This was such a fun idea, and so helpful. I knew when I’d found Kathleen, and the joy when I found a picture of Mr Johannsson! Not only did this idea help me ‘see’ the characters but it also helped me describe them and to work out particular tics (or character traits) that would help the reader ‘see’ them too. For instance, the way Mrs Johannsson twists her handkerchief in her hands hints at her inner turmoil. It allows the reader to see her torment without being told that she is suffering.

Possible interpretation of how Thomas looked – image source – State Library of Queensland

This was the ‘pre-writing’ phase. Next time I’ll go into detail on the writing itself.

See you then.

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I don't know, where you are from. I grew up in Central Europe. During winter here, you leave your home while it's dark outside. When commuting home again, it's already dark also. It's known that this can cause something we like to call "winter depression". Looking it up on Wikipedia I've learned the medical term seem to be "Seasonal affected disorder". I want to share my stake on it.

Seasonal affected disorder can show different symptoms for different persons.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a mood disorder subset in which people who have normal mental health throughout most of the years exhibit depressive symptoms at the same time each year, most commonly in the winter. Common symptoms include sleeping too much, having little to no energy, and overeating.

Personally I can observe things like a certain apathy. I don't feel hungry most of the times.

Fighting the symptoms

I'm sure, there are different strategies to combat SAD. Personally, I need a strong social web (my family) and a strict time schedule: I mainly eat because my watch tells me it is about time. It helps me if I committed to join colleagues on going out for lunch. Regarding apathy I step down my schedule and focus on what I think yields the highest return on investment. In other words, I leave more things undone.

For example, I planned to finish up a project I started recently. But got stuck shortly at end of November. At least I can see where I need to pick my work up because I wrote them down as GitHub issues.

Another thing I planned for quite some time: Book my train and a place to sleep for FOSDEM next year. I should really get this done soon or otherwise the price will go up more and more.

It's kind of a pity, that you can't work outside during this season. not because it is cold, but because your laptop will love the rain or snow. Inhouse sitting close to the window doesn't do the trick either, because the luminescence isn't good enough to work without electric light.

Any tips?

Are you affected by SAD as well? If so, what are you strategies to deal with it? I'd like to read your blog post about it.

Have you heard of selfcare.tech? It's a website, where developers share links to ressources which help with coping with mental disorders.


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What Does Happen When Getting a Pro Setup Done?

You ever wonder where your money is being spent?

Is getting a pro setup done on your new guitar worth it? You would think if you have just forked out good money on a quality guitar it should come ready to roll with no work needed and have the perfect action. From my experience this is not always the case. Most times for me the action is always too high for my liking, string heights need lowering and the neck is not always aligned as it should be.

It does not have to be an expensive guitar either to consider getting a setup done on. I have purchased a super cheap guitar that looked good and after getting a setup done it played like magic. So if you want to save some money might be worth a thought. I recently purchased a fairly expensive Takamine electric acoustic, the action was not too bad straight off the rack but still did not feel the way I wanted. This was a $1,900.00AU guitar Took it down to my local Luthier for a check and yep there were some things that needed fixing/changing. Getting the strings lowered slightly plus there was a slight buzz on the 6th around the 2nd fret needed rectifying. Plus frets around the 12th may need some work. The neck will need a slight adjustment also. The pro setup will set me back about $190AU but if some fret work is needed to getting spot on it could get as high as $299AU. I am sure this price varies depending on your repair shop and the amount of work you get done with them.  But from my experience it is so worth it.

Below is a speed up video of a full detail and pro setup. Well one version of it anyway. I am sure their are some that do less and each would have their own way of doing things. But interesting to watch.

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Maybe it’s a lazy long weekend for you, but with SC101, you can still make sure your tracks are working overtime. On SoundCloud there are no barriers to entry, meaning anyone can upload a track instantly and be discovered. But with all this glorious content, how can you ensure that tastemakers and future fans stop in their mouse-scrolling tracks to click on yours?

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:: Inktober #1::

Learn to draw. Try to make your hand so unconsciously adept that it will put down what you feel without your having to think of your hands. Then you can think of the thing before you.
— Sherwood Anderson

I am joining #inktober this year for the first time ever and I will be testing out black permanent inks, black non-permanent inks, steel nibs, fountain pens, various inks and paper. I have a pile of paper to test this out too, should be fun! This will be ideal for me as I can mostly do all of this from my house or at school. Yeah!

Even though the Faber-Castell PITT pens say that the ink is waterproof, when I used my Kuretake waterbrush the ink faded… and I was happy though surprised. The Zeta paper is perfect for line ink drawings, as it is very smooth, so this will be my go to sketchbook for this month…

Pen: Faber-Castell PITT artist pen :: indian ink :: waterproof
Paper: Stillman & Birn Zeta Series sketchbook #20
Location: Rigaud, Québec, Canada

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  1. Welcome to Inktober challenge Jane! I will read with great pleasure your comments on the different tests you will be making. I am already planning on buying a Stillman Birn Zeta sketchbook. I just love their Beta Series. Have a excellent month! Diane

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happy holidays

Walking back to work from Union Station post office when i’m approached by a young man asking for a quarter. His voice is very uneven.

“Man, you got a quarter?”
“No, but I have a dollar coin,” and reach into my coat pocket to pull one out and hand it over.
He starts to cry.
“I’m sorry. I gotta talk to somebody about this. I just found out my m-m-momma died.”
“Oh, man, what’d she die of?”
“Cancer. Over at KU.”
“I’m really sorry. How old was she?”
He continues to sob.
“Just take some deep breathes for a minute, OK? It’ll be all right. It’ll be OK.”
“What am I gonna do?…I took care of my momma…I was a good son.”
“Cancer can get anybody. It ain’t your fault. I’m sure your mom knew you loved her. Anybody else in your family you need to let know?”
Quietly, “Just me…”
He turns to walk away, then turns back, reaching his arms out to hug me, hesitating at first then continuing forward. I embrace him fully and tell him it’s all right.

But it’s not all right.

I walk back to my building and step into the elevator going up and I know it’s not all right.

happy holidays

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    I always think of my husband’s parents during the holidays. His dad died at 56 and his mom followed just past a year later at 63. That moment you shared with him will mean so much when his grief begins to subside. My husband says you never really get over it, but you do move on, and he really treasures the small kindnesses paid toward him at the time of their deaths.

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A Shorter Week Could Prove Beneficial For All

Jason's Ticus's favorite picture of a guy at workAs Americans, we pride ourselves on hard work. The very idea is assumed to be part of the American fabric and is a major fault line in political debate. The fact is, we work more hours than any other developed nation in the world. Yes more than Japan and the French and even the English. However, recent studies show that we may be killing ourselves in the process, which has many of our friends across the pond advocating for and adopting a shorter work week.

What the study has found is a direct correlation to stress and heart disease in those who work extended hours. In many cases, doctors have even linked such strain to increased risk for strokes, amongst other things. The need to perform and produce along with access to employees at every hour–with the advent of cell phones, emails, and social media–have resulted in more people putting in overtime and paying for it, in apparently very harmful ways. As such, more individuals are raising concerns and pressuring their politicians to introduce legislation that will ease demands and reduce the stigma of working less in exchange for a better health and work-life balance.

Of course initial arguments against this concept are rooted in the apprehension that less work will mean less productivity or more plainly, less profit. However, studies from early adopting countries like the Netherlands and Germany have proven that such isn’t the case, even going as far to show that the very opposite is true: less working hours is directly correlated to better productivity, let alone better health, which should be the focus. Still, despite these findings there is backlash and concern for how to implement such practices and its effects on the economy. A lot of the opposition is rooted in tradition, but there are many benefits that come with adopting this policy which could prove beneficial to the American workforce.

For starters, shorter working hours could lead to more equal employment opportunities for everyone. Hiring more individuals and evenly distributing workloads provides a real chance to decrease the rate of unemployment. Similarly, it increases overall morale and productivity, resulting in even better employees. There are also huge factors which are typically overlooked in the debate, such as gender equality. Less working hours for men–who make up a large majority of those expected to work longer–could result in shared responsibility in the home, in terms of child care, and balance out the opportunities currently available for women with children. There is also the “green” benefits which come from a shorter work day. Global warming is an increasingly important issue; reducing the carbon footprint by limiting office time is undeniably a step in the right direction.

So, a lot of the work is now left to legislators to decide whether sustainable business is something that will define American life anytime soon. The research is there, the benefits and examples are plentiful. My opinion is always to improve ways in which we can healthily sustain the present and provide better opportunities for those to come. It remains to be seen whether this is something our officials will come to prioritize as well.


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Welcome to my blog. Preparing for the last Cardboard Hurrah

Thursday, March 12, 2015

Catching up with a great trade package!

Jared is one of my frequent swapping partners nowadays.  He always manages to send things I never see coming-like this whopper that invaded my mailbox recently!

 How much is a Dale Murphy coin worth?  I should try to pay at Burger King with Murph!  He's priceless to me
 I'm all in on these Bravo Chipz
 Some nice BAT Booklets
 Dueling Fielding Stances
 Big and Monster Murphs
 Godzilla sized Spahn!
 The Great One
 Not old enough to remember Joe as our skipper but everytime I see this I just smile
 A Big ole HOF stack
 2015 in the house!
 Blindingly shiny
 Nice Minis especially the Spahn
 Love the old Ziploc cards
 This is a super cool disk

 Now onto the goods JW sent for the 2015 Auto Project
 Love those Archives
 Super Braves for the Binder
 Fan Favorites are the Topps!
 This Gillick was a very nice surprise that I was very thankful Jared included!

Many thanks for an awesome package Jared!!  I will hitting you back soon!  Hard

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Monthly Archives: February 2011

CD Recommendations

Bobby Wellins: Time Gentlemen, Please (Trio Records)

Some players just get better with age – and, judging by this new CD, Bobby Wellins is one of them. Featuring a wonderfully eclectic and imaginative selection of tunes from his working repertoire, it finds the great Scots tenor player in terrific form whether he’s powering through such uptempo tunes as the title track, balladeering wistfully on a standard or giving I’m Wishing (the love song from Snow White) a stylish, funky going-over. Of course, it helps that he’s surrounded by an ace trio – notably his long-term pianist John Critichinson.

Jump Presents Private Treasures from Allegheny Jazz Concerts 1950s-2000

For lovers of classic jazz, the Allegheny Jazz Society is a familiar name as it has issued many great recordings on the Jump label. It has also played host to some great live performances, as this superb two-disc compilation demonstrates. Comprising numbers recorded across a 50-year period, it features groups including the likes of Marty Grosz, Ken Peplowski, Bob Wilber, Dick Hyman, John Sheridan and Scott Hamilton – all of whom have been regular visitors to British jazz festivals – as well as by the late, great Ruby Braff and Lee Wiley.

Howard Alden: I Remember Django (Arbors Records)

Two of US guitarist Howard Alden’s earliest influences were the gypsy jazz pioneer Django Reinhardt and the American great Barney Kessel – and he pays tribute to both on this new CD which also recalls the fact that, back in 1999, he was responsible for coaching Sean Penn in his role as a Django-obsessed guitarist in Woody Allen’s Sweet and Lowdown. Featuring a Django-style line-up (two guitars and bass), this is a joyful album which showcases Alden’s lyricism and dexterity on 13 sublime numbers. Cornettist Warren Vache and clarinettist Anat Cohen’s elegant contributions are the icing on the cake.

Vince Guaraldi Trio: Jazz Impressions of Black Orpheus (OJC Remasters)

Italian-American pianist Vince Guaraldi – AKA Dr Funk – is best known for his catchy music for the Charlie Brown/Peanuts TV specials. However, before that association, he had already scored a hit with this 1961 album – which has at its core trio versions of the music from the influential 1959 film Black Orpheus (the movie that brought Brazilian music to worldwide attention) – and had topped the charts with his own complementary composition number Cast Your Fate to the Wind. Lovely, atmospheric stuff.

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Classic Jazz Orchestra, Glasgow Art Club

The spirit of the old Glasgow Society of Musicians – where this jazz fan first heard many of her favourite jazz players – is alive and well and may have finally found a new home, thanks to the Bridge Music series of concerts at the Glasgow Art Club. Warm and welcoming, cosy yet spacious, the art club has the same relaxed ambience of the Society’s Berkeley Street building and, based on Thursday night’s concert by the Classic Jazz Orchestra, it would certainly be a worthy successor as a venue for classic and mainstream jazz whose fans have generally not been well served in Glasgow for years.

That fact was underlined by the various mini-reunions going on between punters who used to frequent the GSOM. As the evening progressed, the audience swelled to include many younger concert-goers, undoubtedly lured by the deal that Bridge Music is offering to RSAMD students and their chums.

Of course, it helped enormously that the band appearing on the bill was the CJO, an outfit which never fails to draw a crowd, thanks to the fact that it varies its programme regularly and offers a rare chance to hear tunes from the 1920s onwards played as if they were brand new. Thursday night’s programme veered more to the 1950s and 1960s end of the repertoire, with stand-outs including a masterful version of The Waters of March in which the melody seemed to snake its way fluidly around the front line, Oliver Nelson’s airily cool Stolen Moments and Duke Ellington’s Happy Go Lucky Loco, a train-inspired piece which built up a terrific head of steam.

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Boots for Days. Boots for Fall. Boots for You.

Boots for Days. Boots for Fall. Boots for You.

Fall is boot season; time to dig out the boot collection you tucked away when spring replaced winter.  Right?  Not so fast fellow boot-lovers!  This season, [un]fortunately we have tons of new styles, new trends, new details, and more that make it difficult to just rely on last season’s old trusties.

What’s in this season?  Fringe adds playful movement and sex appeal to the ordinary ankle boot.  Metallic booties make every step shine and pair well with jeans, tights, or a dress.  Stacked heels are comfortable, bearable and stylish enough to take you from day to night.  Studded leather boots are edgy, without being over-the-top.  Cap toe boots make a statement in shiny silver, gold, or leather.

It’s ok to hold on to your tried and true boots from season’s past; however, adding one or two of these style-setting boots will help solidify your fall wardrobe.

Below, a few of our top picks to get you started:

Boots with the Fringe

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Sam Edelman Louie Fringe Booties, $159.95

7 For All Mankind® ‘Mirage’ Boot, $325

Jeffrey Campbell Roswell Fringe Bootie, $225

Not-So-Heavy Metal

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Aldo McNeary Ankle Boot, $110

Ecote Country Boot, $79

Christian Louboutin Rock & Gold 120 Metallic Leather Ankle Boots, $1,095

Stacked Heels Rising

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MICHAEL Michael Kors Emory Bootie, $225

Madewell Zipcode Boot in Suede, $198

Dolce Vita JuJu Suede Ankle Boot, $119

Studs Have All the Fun

Left to right:

Zara Gold Studded Ankle Boot, $129

Frye Vera Disc Short, $368

Jeffrey Campbell Presley, $244.95

Cap That Toe!

Clockwise, from top left:

ASOS ARROW Point Ankle Boots with Toecap, $61.57

Ecote Metal Chelsea Boot, $69

Miista Mansi Cap Toe Booties, $232.00

Loeffler Randall Nanette Cap-Toe Low-Heel Ankle Bootie, $395


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3 Levels of Relationship Between Manager and Employee (Any Which One Actually Works)

Dr. Edgar Schein, the foremost expert on organizational culture, writes about the three levels of relationship between managers and team members.

Let’s first define relationship: To have a certain ability to predict someone’s behavior. The greater the relationship, the greater the ability to predict someone’s behavior.

This being said, here are the 3 levels of relationship leaders/managers can have with their employees/team members.

  1. Level 1 – Distance Relationship: Keep your professional distance. Don’t get too close to your clients, employees, team members. Keep them at arms length. See the person only as the role they play on your team or in your organization.
  2. Level 2 – Helping Relationship: Treat your clients, employees and team members as actual human beings. Get personal (not too personal) with those you lead. Not too personal…but, personal enough. See them as human beings with human feelings and emotions.
  3. Level 3 – Intimate Relationship: “Sleeping” with your clients, employees or team members. Those you lead become close, personal friends or lovers. This intimacy leads to favoritism and nepotism.

Dr. Schein argues Level 1 Relationship is dead, although it remains alive and well. You understand.

Level 3 is dangerous and leads to a loss of trust and, more than likely, your position.

Level 2 is the sweet spot. Treat the people you lead (or clients you work with) as human beings. Know who they are. Know who and what they care about. Know what motivates them.

Care about them.

Once you understand them – through your caring and knowing – you better understand how to help them.

Then… help them.

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Podcast #112 – Jason Christoff – The Dependency Agenda

Click here to listen to podcast #112

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Show notes for podcast #112 below…..

Previous podcast on cyber polygon – bit.ly/3qXPtHE

Cyber Polygon – official source – bit.ly/3hvLgYG

US pipeline already fake attacked – bit.ly/2UAbvnY
US meat plant already fake attacked – bbc.in/3e4SpND
Sweden grocery store fake attacked – bbc.in/36pWgQX

Anti Meat Agenda from psychopath Bill Gates – bit.ly/3yFOv5r

Learn about the anti male agenda….
1.The Agenda to Eliminate All Strong Males – bit.ly/2DEUpfa
2. The Rise of The Beta Male – The Agenda To Destroy the Alpha – bit.ly/2iUaDV1
3. Lady Gaga and The “Born This Way” Agenda – bit.ly/2DKN4tK
4. The Fall of Men and The Agenda Behind It – bit.ly/2pgnlAl
5. The Covert Agenda To Feminize The Male – Dave Chapelle Tells A Story – bit.ly/2S3BjT8
6. Strong Black Males Are Targets of The System – bit.ly/35DWTVX

EU deaths from the fake vaccine – bit.ly/3e3nUHQ
US deaths from the fake vaccine – bit.ly/3hSvlmc
UK deaths from the fake vaccine – bit.ly/3yGF4CP

Find out about the UK Royals – bit.ly/2TYhItE
Find out that the US Presidents are related to the UK Royals –bit.ly/3k3pJsc
Guess who all the Prime Minister swear their loyalty to? – bit.ly/3wuJHOU

Graphene a very toxic compound discovered in all fake covid vaccines – bit.ly/3hrA8Mm

Doctors speaking and warning about the fake COVID vaccine – bit.ly/3hSkQiW

Only 1-10% of vaccine deaths and reactions are ever reported and still the death and injury numbers are off the chart – bit.ly/2UFxIkc

Each injection doesn’t qualify under standard definitions as a vaccine – bit.ly/3k2g5Gf and at the same link it reviews that no vaccine maker promises that their product protects from COVID or prevents transmission – so why take it?

Isolation and a lack of human contact is a known psychological torture technique – bit.ly/3AOSAq4

Mind control documentaries and real life mind control examples on video…….. bit.ly/3yITgLO

Religious figures getting arrested in Canada by a communist embracing structure of corrupt government – bit.ly/3hXsGYi

Medical doctor explains key points regarding the fake covid vaccine – bit.ly/36pyPHo

Most doctors aren’t getting the fake covid vaccine themselves – bit.ly/3yHVNWt

Government in Ontario now controls the rental market and tells people renting that they don’t have to pay their rent like before –bit.ly/2T1fs4B

Johnson & Johnson (one of 5 vaccine manufactures) has a massive criminal record. All other companies, which make the fake vaccines, are all the same – bit.ly/3AOhHcj

Book on brainwashing tactics – amzn.to/3xw5V4u

There is no SARS-COV-2 – it doesn’t exist – www.bitchute.com/video/rQW47EuYxfSR/

No extra deaths in Canada from 2019 – 2020 – bit.ly/33aylDH

Deaths the same in the US between 2019 and 2020……and the survival rate for COVID is 99.96% – bit.ly/398Fd7Q

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Prognostic significance of heat shock protein 90AA1 (HSP90α) in invasive breast cancer
  1. Sami A Alsaeed1,2,
  2. Michael Toss1,
  3. Mansour Alsaleem1,3,
  4. Mohammed Aleskandarany1,
  5. Chitra Joseph4,
  6. Sasagu Kurozumi1,5,
  7. Graham Ball6,
  8. Nigel Mongan7,8,
  9. Andrew Green1,
  10. Emad Rakha1,9
  1. 1Nottingham Breast Cancer Research Centre, Division of Cancer and Stem Cells, School of Medicine, Biodiscovery Institute, University of Nottingham, Nottingham, UK
  2. 2Faculty of Applied Medical Sciences, Northern Border University, Arar, Saudi Arabia
  3. 3Department of Applied Medical Sciences, Onizah Community College, Qassim University, Qassim, Saudi Arabia
  4. 4School of Medicine,The University of Nottingham and Nottingham University Hospitals NHS Trust, Nottingham City Hospital, Nottingham, UK
  5. 5Department of Breast Surgery, International University of Health and Welfare, Narita, Japan
  6. 6John van Geest Cancer Research Centre, School of Science and Technology, Nottingham Trent University, Nottingham, Notts, UK
  7. 7Faculty of Medicine and Health Sciences, Biodiscovery Institute, University of Nottingham, Nottingham, UK
  8. 8Department of Pharmacology, Weill Cornell Medicine, New York City, New York, USA
  9. 9Faculty of Medicine, Menoufyia University, Shebin al Kawm, Egypt
  1. Correspondence to Sami A Alsaeed, Nottingham Breast Cancer Research Centre, Division of Cancer and Stem Cells, School of Medicine, University of Nottingham, Nottingham NG7 2RD, UK; sami.alsaeed{at}

Aims The mechanisms that drive breast cancer (BC) progression and poor outcome are not fully understood. The human heat shock protein 90 alpha family class A member 1 (HSP90α) encoded by the HSP90ΑA1 gene has a vital role in cellular responses to stress and is implicated in the development and progression of many cancers. The current study aims to explore the clinical and prognostic importance of HSP90α in BC.

Methods The Molecular Taxonomy of Breast Cancer International Consortium (n=1980); The Cancer Genome Atlas (n=1097) and the Breast Cancer Gene-Expression Miner (Bc-GenExMiner) BC datasets (n=5056) were used to evaluate HSP90ΑA1 mRNA expression. HSP90α protein expression was further assessed using immunohistochemistry in a large (n=911) well-characterised BC series. The association between mRNA and protein expressions with other clinicopathological parameters and outcome was analysed.

Results High expression of HSP90ΑA1 both at the mRNA and protein levels was significantly associated with characteristics of BC poor prognosis, including high grade, lymphovascular invasion, poor Nottingham Prognostic Index and positive expression of p53 and PIK3CA. Outcome analysis revealed that high HSP90α protein expression is an independent predictor of shorter BC-specific survival.

Conclusion HSP90α can be used as a potential prognostic marker in BC. Further mechanistic studies are warranted to determine the underlying molecular mechanisms mediated by HSP90α in BC.

  • breast neoplasms
  • pathology
  • molecular
  • breast diseases
  • lymph nodes

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  • Handling editor Cheok Soon Lee.

  • Contributors SAA and ER conceived the project. SAA performed experiments and wrote the original draft manuscript. MT performed the pathological evaluation. MAls helped with analysis and interpretation of data. Paper writing was done by SAA, MT, MAle, MAls, CJ, SK, GB, NM, AG and ER. All authors reviewed the original draft manuscript and contributed to the editing and preparation of the final manuscript.

  • Funding Funding and support of the current study were made possible through the Saudi Arabia Ministry of Education, Northern Borders University (NBU).

  • Competing interests None declared.

  • Patient consent for publication Not required.

  • Ethics approval The present study acquired the ethics approval of the North West—Greater Manchester Central Research Ethics Committee to use human tissue samples from the Nottingham Health Science Biobank (NHSB), along with the reference number 15/NW/0685. Before surgery, the informed consent was retrieved from all the study patients, informing them that their tissue materials will be used in research. The study followed the REMARK guidelines for tumour marker prognostic studies.

  • Provenance and peer review Not commissioned; externally peer reviewed.

  • Data availability statement All data relevant to the study are included in the article or uploaded as supplemental information. Research involving human participants and/or animals: the researchers of the current study did not perform any experiment on either human or animal subjects. The researchers validate that the information used in the current study is available on request.

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12 Tips for Building a Successful Enterprise Social Network – Part 8

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Tip8ForSuccessfulESNThis is part 8 of a 12-part series on tips for building a successful enterprise social network (ESN) at your business. Links to the previous 7 tips are at the bottom of this post.

Tip #8 is an extremely important one if your ESN is to really make a difference in how your company gets work done. Here’s the tip:

Integrate your ESN where people do their work.

There are two aspects of this integration to consider – (1) integration into the software and tools people use daily in their work, and (2) integration into the processes by which that work occurs. First, let’s consider integration into other software and tools.

It’s likely that most workers in businesses prior to the launch of an ESN have established places online where work happens – software applications, email inboxes, intranet resources and more that they switch between during the course of the day to perform their various tasks. If an ESN is introduced as a completely separate destination which they must go to outside the workflow to which they are accustomed, then there is likely little motivation – much less need – to go there. If I can still accomplish everything that is expected of me at a level of proficiency acceptable to my manager and myself without using the ESN, then why should I bother unless there are other non-work advantages to going to that destination?

If an ESN is being sold, for example, on its merits of improving communication or simplifying processes, then it needs to be readily available where I’m doing my work and not something that takes me away from my primary applications in order to use it effectively. That is why it’s vital to integrate the ESN into places like the intranet landing page that users see multiple times daily, or into those internal sites where teams store documents and manage lists throughout the day (such as SharePoint), or embedded into other specific applications where ESN communication can serve a purpose like user assistance or approval processes, or even integrated into the long list of email inbox folders for those still holding on to the inbox and the way of managing their work.

At my company, we currently have over 200 integrations of our ESN into other sites and tools where people do their work. It is deeply embedded into our intranet landing page – a giant leap forward in ESN exposure which doubled the rate of growth that existed prior to that integration. Every article on the intranet has a corresponding discussion thread in the ESN along with icons to like or comment on the article from the intranet home page. A recent question by our CEO in one of those articles resulted in over 100 comments in the corresponding ESN discussion within a day. The link to the ESN main application is the very first work-related site link on the Intranet home menu. In addition, we have over 200 SharePoint sites that have embedded discussion streams from the ESN, mostly tied to particular interest groups created on the ESN, although sometimes based on hashtags used or the posts of specific people. We have two other major web-based internal applications used by thousands that embed the relevant user group ESN stream into those products so that users can ask their questions and get live assistance directly from within those applications. Anyone who wishes to have their ESN groups and streams embedded into their email inbox folders can also open a help desk ticket and get that added (although I don’t push that since I think we’re too email dominated in our environment as it is).

The point is that you don’t want use of the ESN to be available only as another destination, although many companies (mine included) will still see the bulk of their activity from those separate ESN web apps. So the first and a very important aspect of integration which must be planned and continuously executed and improved upon is embedding those discussions into where people are already doing their work daily.

The second aspect of integration has to do with processes. This is where we change our ways of working to intentionally use the ESN in processes in place of previous ways of doing things. For example, instead of those ungodly reply-all email chains that clog up inboxes, are hard to find when you need them, and waste the time of so many who don’t need to be on the recipient list, why not post the question or discussion topic on the ESN? That way you can share the discussion link with stakeholders so they can participate in the discussion if they wish, and then you have at most one email that goes out – none if you do the notification solely via the ESN. Those who want to participate in the discussion can do so without clogging up the inbox of others not interested.

For another example, consider the various approval processes that occur with different work tasks. How complicated do those tend to be? How many tools are involved? How many emails are involved? Why not have a simple discussion in an ESN – private if it must be – where stakeholders can easily discuss and document their approval without unnecessarily complex, time-consuming sequences taking place elsewhere?

Of course, ESNs are a natural for leaders who are progressive, open, transparent, and who want to lead their people to be aligned around a common purpose, values and strategy, engaging in two-way conversation regularly with employees at all levels of the organization. You can’t do that reasonably via email or top-down, controlled communications. You can only accomplish that in live, in-person settings or the online equivalent of those via ESNs, virtual town halls, etc. Leaders who make good use of an ESN to change the tone and process of communication will have a strong, lasting impact on the satisfaction of employees and their consequent success together as a team.

If you have not yet invested in an ESN solution with a vendor, then make sure any solution you consider provides flexible ways of being integrated into many other kinds of applications where people do their work. It will be critical for adoption and for making the ESN pervasive throughout the organization. Always keep working to find more places, more business areas, more tools and applications where the ESN can be embedded so that its use becomes an expected, normal part of daily work life.

In terms of processes, keep your eye out for opportunities to improve the way work happens by changing archaic, complex, confusing, time-consuming processes into simpler discussions that happen in one easily accessed place via the ESN. Don’t just tack on the ESN to existing ways of working. Take advantage of its functionality to replace and improve the way work happens.

Unlike some of the other tips in this series, tip #8 is one you will continuously need to have in mind and work toward. You will never completely arrive and be done with this process. There will always be room for improvement, but being the advocate and change agent around this effort at integration will leave a significant mark on the organization as work is accomplished by people throughout the company more efficiently and effectively.

Tip #8 is Integrate your ESN where people do their work.

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1. So clever! I love your Christmas video. It made me smile and laugh out loud. The driving scenes are classic and we can all relate to them (either from ourselves or our children). Merry Christmas from the Alcorn family!

  2. Love your Christmas video! Too much fun, I laughed so much. 🙂 I do beg to differ about Zach’s first kiss though…. 😀 Hope you had a great Christmas and are looking forward to a great New Year!

  3. Great Chriatmas video…love it, how creative and great narrator. The kids are getting all grown up…such a great family. So glad to have known you.

  4. Best Christmas message ever! Loved it!Glad you’re all doing so well and never letting anything stand in your way. Happy New Year!

    The McBride Clan

  5. That video is hilarious! We only have some of the same friends, so perhaps we will steal that idea next year. Upside the kids are homeschooled and have plenty of time to make a video of animated Legos, but downside is we don’t really have anything to make a video about compared to yours 😦 Glad you are sharing and making awesome progress

  6. Hi Jenny,

    Loved the Christmas video. You all are very creative! Hope talking with people goes well today. Wish I were there and I would let you try with me. I really miss Austin and the people there! It is only about 5 degrees here in Utah right now!

    Carrie Bourne

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Why Your Child Doesn’t Obey

Phoebe-Rat 2Phoebe Buffay kept rat babies. They had names, regular feedings, and a bedtime schedule. We Friends fans snickered as Phoebe and her boyfriend rearranged their priorities to accommodate their new parenting responsibilities. Ah, that wacky, zany situation comedy!

This next part isn’t a joke…I once cared for a rat who taught me valuable lessons about parenthood.

I was taking a psychology class called Behavior Modification. My lab partner and I were responsible for training a rat. We named him Sam. Several hours a week, we placed Sam in a specially rigged box and gradually taught him to retrieve food pellets by pushing a lever. At the beginning of the semester, oblivious Sam ran aimlessly around the box, unsure of the rules or expectations. We worked with him, consistently giving the same responses to his behaviors. By the end of the semester, that little dude had the routine down cold. As soon as we put him in the box, Sam would head right for the lever and scarf down his pellets.

The Skinner Box, named for behavior psychologist B.F. Skinner
The Skinner Box, named for behavioral psychologist B.F. Skinner

About a decade later, my own babies (humans, not rats!) started showing up. As signs of spirit, personality, and attitude emerged, I realized that I was now responsible for training them. This included teaching them to obey me. The key to teaching obedience is consistency.

Before I go any further, let me explain what I mean by teaching obedience. I believe in the importance of honoring a child’s unique, God-given personality. It has never been my goal to shame my children, break their spirit, or turn them into robots. Even the most challenging personality traits can be turned upside down and used for good. But until your child obeys you, he won’t be ready or able to learn anything else from you.

Consistency means being predictable. Imagine playing in a baseball game where the rules keep changing. Your opponent gets five strikes before the umpire finally calls “Out!” You thought the rule was three strikes, but OK, whatever. Later, you step up to the plate and after only one strike, the ump sends you back to the bench. Frustrating, isn’t it?

Now imagine being a child – a person with virtually no power or authority – and living in a household where the rules change willy-nilly. Yesterday, you gave him five chances to do your bidding before taking away his favorite truck. Today, he told you “No” one time, and then you took away his Screen Time for a week.

How will he react? With rage. With resentment. With frustration. He never saw that punishment coming because your reactions are unpredictable.

Consistency means being reliable. Your child should be able to count on the fact that when she does “X” you will respond with “Y.”

When I throw a toy… Dad will send me to time out.
When I misbehave at the park… Mom will take me home.
When I play with Grandma’s china… I’ll have to stay out of the living room for the rest of my visit.
When I leave my dirty laundry on the floor… Mom will make me stop what I’m doing and clean it up.

How scary the world is for that powerless child when she doesn’t know whether you will punish her, hug her, or ignore her!

Consistency means keeping your promises. If you said, “We’re leaving in 5 minutes” then leave in 5 minutes. Don’t cave to pleas for “One more minute, Dad!” Because one minute turns into three, which turns into ten. And when you really are ready to leave, your poor kid – who cannot figure out WHAT you really want – will frustrate you, just like you’ve been frustrating him.

Consistency means following through. When you’re tired, when you’ve had a crappy day, when you don’t feel like arguing, when it seems easier to throw your hands up in the air and say “whatever”… DON’T!

Can I tell you what motivates me to follow through, even when I don’t feel like it? The awareness that if I don’t address this drippy faucet now, the basement will soon be flooded. So I told Curly Sue to put away her shoes, yet they’re still sitting in the middle of the floor. Is it really that big of a deal? Can’t I just put them away myself? The answer is “No, you can’t.” The shoes aren’t that important, but YOUR AUTHORITY IS. If you don’t follow through, Curly Sue will think that all of your directives are merely “suggestions,” rather than mandates.

Children are not born with an innate “Hey, I should obey my parents” sense. They obey because they are taught to obey through consistency, clear expectations, and consequences. If you lack consistency in parenting, then you are confusing your child. They may think that whining, complaining, begging, and throwing tantrums are OK, because those techniques usually get them what they want. They may think that they can behave however they wish, because your threats are mostly hollow.

If you are having trouble getting your child to obey, check yourself for consistency. Like Phoebe’s boyfriend, you just might find a few problem spots to be addressed.

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6 thoughts on “Why Your Child Doesn’t Obey

  1. This was an excellent post. I had a similar experience in college, and that, along with training horses, a few puppies, and my own childhood experiences, taught me that consistency is so incredibly important. I like your analogy. I’ve seen this play out with parents, where one parent follows through immediately, and the other parent gives several warnings. The other parent one day saw this, and they tried imitating the first parent, but they were met with a backlash that shook the house. I told them they weren’t being fair to the child, because the rules they had “taught” them were that they wouldn’t follow through the first time, but the first parent had taught them they would. So it wasn’t fair for the parent to change the rules like that and not expect any backlash. 🙂 Again, excellent post. 🙂

  2. Thanks for your feedback, Mercy. You bring up another good point: Parents presenting a united front. Perhaps another good topic for the blog 🙂 Best wishes.

  3. Well written! I grew up in an alcoholic household as a child, so I vowed that when I had children that I would be upfront and consistent with rules and consequences. It took out so much of the emotional drama that you see in current parenting styles and it has produced great kids. My teenagers are a joy to be around – not just for our family, but other adults and teenagers alike. I can trust them do most anything because I know they understand the great value of obedience and trust it has built in our relationship. Even now, when there is teenage frustration over our rules, we often say something along the lines of: “I don’t expect you to agree with me, I can understand why you don’t. You know that we don’t just make up rules to make up rules, but we will draw boundaries when it is in your best interest – and we need you to obey and trust that we have your best interest at heart.”
    Well thought out rules can actually bring great safety and be very freeing for children (and adults alike!).
    Thanks for this article!

  4. Hi Anonymous,
    That’s a great point. We don’t normally think of rules as something that free us, but children thrive when they are certain of the boundaries. Thanks for reading!

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He y all welcome back to day 3 of previews for The Greeting Farm November Release, you know what this means? Tomorrow you can get your hands on these babies!

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Today’s set is called All of Us, and it is full of super adorable animal faces. You can use these in planners, making your own pattern paper or the focus of a card itself!

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Jumpologies: Images of jumping, from gymnastics to ecstasy

Study day led by Joséphine Jibokji, Barbara Le Maître, Natacha Pernac and Jennifer Verraes

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Taking as its starting point the “jumping picture gallery” made by Philippe Halsman in the 1950s, this study session begins by contextualising the photographer’s work in relation to the mass media and the Hollywood “dream factory,” then goes on to elaborate a kind of iconography of jumping in photography, film and painting.

For Halsman, getting his models to repeatedly jump was a way of “making the mask slip,” and therefore removing or lessening their control of their expression. It was part of his efforts to refresh the portrait genre. Making this movement meant a loss of control, a loosening of the psychic grip, the effects of which were visible in the face. At the other end of the “iconographic spectrum,” the ski jump champion in The Great Ecstasy of Woodcarver Steiner (Werner Herzog, 1973) pursues sporting exploits as a spiritual quest. Between photographic subjects leaping into the air, and the airborne filmed figure, between gymnastics and ecstasy, we can observe several figures, several types of jump, each of which we can assume engages a singular, shifting articulation of body and spirit.

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Barbara Le Maître Professor of film studies at the Université Paris Ouest Nanterre, Barbara Le Maître is the author of Entre film et photographie. Essai sur l’empreinte (Presses Universitaires de Vincennes, 2004) and Zombie–une fable anthropologique (Presses Universitaires de Paris Ouest, 2015). She also co-edited Preserving and Exhibiting Media Art. Challenges and Perspectives (with J. Noordegraaf, C. Saba, V. Hediger, Amsterdam University Press, 2013), Cinéma muséum. Le musée d’après le cinéma (with J. Verraes, Presses Universitaires de Vincennes, 2013), and Tout ce que le ciel permet en cinéma, photographie, peinture et vidéo (with B.N Aboudrar, Presses Sorbonne Nouvelle, 2015).

Natacha Pernac Lecturer in the history of modern art at the Université Paris Ouest Nanterre, Natacha Pernac specialises in the Italian Renaissance and, in particular, the representation of the body, the theory of representation in painting, and the historiography of art and its reception, as well as the analysis of artistic interactions (Paragone, Peinture-Cinéma). She has published La Peinture représentée with Robert Bared (Éditions Hazan, 2013) and co-organised with J. Jibokji, B. Le Maître and J. Verraes the symposium “Musées au cinéma” (Paris INHA, Jeu de Paume, December 2014).

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Rex Ryan’s Pause Button

Rex Ryan’s Pause Button

“Shut up already! You’re SUCH a brat!”

How many times a year, a week, a day does the blood rush to your head in blinding anger and cause you say and do things you will heartily regret?

One of my biggest struggles as a mom is my natural lack of a “pause button”*…in other words extending my cooling down period/response time long enough so that when I do respond to a driving-me-crazy child, the words that issue forth from my mouth will be words I can be proud of rather than ashamed of.

So, I felt a lot of sympathy this week for Jets coach Rex Ryan who was fined $75,000 for cursing at a fan (though I didn’t feel excessive sympathy…my marriage into the Weisberg clan was contingent on a life-long declaration of allegiance to the New England Patriots;)…

Here’s the AP account of Ryan’s mightily costly outburst:

A 49-second video shot by a fan at MetLife Stadium shows the Jets walking off the field and when Ryan appears, someone is heard yelling, “Hey, Rex, Belichick is better than you,” referring to Patriots coach Bill Belichick. Ryan looks up and tells the fan to “shut up” while also using an obscenity.

Ryan apologized a day later for what he called “a mistake,” saying he “was full of emotion and just popped off.” Moments earlier, the Jets had just allowed the Patriots to take a 13-9 lead into halftime. He reiterated Monday that he has owned up to what he did since the incident became public last week.

It’s not the first time Ryan is in trouble because of his mouth, which likely contributed to the hefty punishment. He was fined $50,000 by the Jets in February 2010 after he was caught on a cellphone camera giving the middle finger to a fan during a mixed martial arts event in Florida.

“Was full of emotion and just popped off…” Sounds familiar? It does to this JewishMOM…

So what can we do to keep our mouths and our selves more under control at challenging parenting moments? Here’s a few thoughts:

1. Bribes: When I was going through a tough time with one of my daughters, and I was blowing up at her frequently, I decided that every day I DIDN’T lose my cool with her, I would allow myself to eat a special treat at the end of the day. And yes, this was an extremely effective way to keep my tongue under control. This self-bribing technique is what Sara Rigler calls “Speaking the language of the Yetser Hara.” Your Yetser Hara wants to spank your naughty 2-year-old, but your Yetser Hara wants 2 scoops of Cherry Garcia even more.

2. Fines: My friend told me that every time she misbehaves, she does what the NFL does… she fines herself (though she fines herself $74,998 less per transgression than the NFL). And the money that she collects she gives to charity.

3.Beware of Stimulants: I know you hate it when I tell you to stop eating sugar and caffeine, but I love you, JewishMOM, so I’m going to tell you again… If you don’t have a pause button, there’s a good chance that sugar and caffeine are the culprits. I stopped eating sugar and caffeine 7 years ago, and while it was tough for those 1st two cold-turkey weeks, I am a much calmer mom because of it.

4. Exercise: Make sure to get those calming/pause-button-boosting endorphins flowing at least once a day with some vigorous, heart-pumping exercise.

5. Parenting class: Take a parenting class to learn how to deal with your kids with love, boundaries, and a pause button. I highly recommend Dina Friedman’s Chanoch Lnaar class starting next week…

6. Sleep: If you are not sleeping enough, before long you will start “popping off” like Rex Ryan. You need at least 7 hours of sleep at night, so if that’s not happening, make sure to supplement with daytime naps.

JewishMOM, what ways have you discovered to keep your cool at challenging parenting moments?

*The concept of a pause button is taken from Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

  1. Thanks. As JewishMOM who has benefited from the love you pour into your blog, I know you are in this to help. I agree with most of your tips. Most of them – learn the tools of your trade, get appropriate sleep and exercise – are supported by scientific evidence and by many Moms. Caffeine is another story.

    Anyone who is happy without it – fine – I’m not selling anything. But there is not a body of scientific evidence against drinking coffee or tea (I’m staying away from the question of sugar which I know less about. Search the NYT Health section if you want to see links to lots of studies of coffee drinkers). Some people function much better with a regular coffee habit, are calmer, more efficient, more self disciplined and happier. It is not true that everyone on coffee is hyper, tense, anxious, irritable…it’s just not. It does not disable the pause button for everyone. I know many people are ideologically opposed, and I respect their right to their, um, opinion, but it should be clearly marked as a personal opinion or ideology, not something that is True. It’s NOT.

    • Interesting, I didn’t know that there are differences of opinions about this. I cut out caffeine after reading that it’s problematic in the book Mother Nurture. I do notice, though, that some people drink coffee and aren’t irritable, like I used to be when I drank coffee. I guess what I’m saying is if moms ARE irritable and pause-button-less then they should try stopping caffeine.

  2. Great tips. I don’t find coffee to be an issue but cutting out sugar is a great tip for young moms. So many of us think we need sugar for energy, but in reality, it just brings our energy way down. Yasher Koach, very nice!

  3. Interesting new twist on an old idea: I thought I had to cut the sugar out of the kids afternoon snacks to curb THEIR hyperactivity!!!

    I didn’t think about my OWN behaviour!!!!

    Good one!!!

  4. At a parenting class I am taking, a similar topic came up- what to do when you feel the panic gauge rising inside of you- one thing you can ALWAYS do is ask Hashem for help!!!! surely you can also do this when you are about o yell or scream or critisize and He will be there for you!

  5. I just started something similar myself. I took a pushka-like box, wrapped it in bright red paper and labeled it “When I hold myself back… munachim bikufsa”. It sits in the back of my closet. I place a coin inside whenever I hold myself back / push the pause button. It works! It really works!

  6. I have also found that if I let my blood sugar get low (too much time between meals) then I am super snappy with my LO. That just ties back into taking care of yourself so you can properly take care of the kids – eating regular, healthy meals, getting enough sleep, etc.

  7. Thanks for the reminder that I’m not alone in struggling with my “pause” button. Hearing that other people are successfully battling this also gives me more patience with my kids. Thanks for the tips!!! Not enough sleep is the number-one culprit for me. I’m too tempted to stay up late enjoying the peace and quiet.

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